guest Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 boyfriend and i of 2.5 years split up. i didn't know why, but he said he didn't love me anymore. well, basically i lost it and turned to things i shouldn't have. ridiculous drinking and flirting until it caught up with me and i slept with a mutual friend. this was roughly 2 months post break-up. here's the kicker... about 3 months post break-up, the ex comes up to me and says he wants to try again. that he's sorry and that he's ready now. so, taking it slow, i say fine, but this won't be easy. he agrees and says it'll be worth it. i tell him everything i did, he says it's fine, what happened in the past doesn't matter. 2 months go by with everything being dandy when he decides that everything is not all fine and that he is terribly hurt by my previous actions. i have told him time and time again that i don't understand my own actions and i will always be sorry for what i did. the worst part of all this is that we have both come to the conclusion that we are IT for eachother. we want to be around eachother forever but he doesn't know if he can be with me. i forgave and forgot his little indiscrepancy, why can't he move passed mine? i would say anything or do anything to stop him from hurting. i want this to all be over and i want to move on to the good stuff we talked about.
moimeme Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 If you both really want to make it work, go to a couples' counsellor and get help to get over this episode.
Zaira Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 You were with the other person when you had broken up, so really you have NOTHING to be ashamed of, and he has nothing to be jealous about. If you both believe that you're "the one" for each other, but can't get through this hiccup, then I suggest, as above, to try some counsellling. You have to get over it one way or the other or it will just keep festering and may push you apart forever.
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