I'm a female dating another female for second time..

[Random.g1rl]

I've dated a female before when I was 20. It lasted 2 months. I am now 26 and started dating another female who is 21. She likes to be referred to as "he" because she plans to start testosterone in the future. We have not been together long at all, literally only 3 months. Within those 3 months, we've done nothing but argue damn near every other day. Lately (this past month) I have felt unhappy and unsure. I've questioned myself on a daily basis as to is this what I want? I don't see us being together for "years".. and trust me I've already expressed every feeling and thoughts that I am posting about with my partner. Her parents don't even know she's "gay" though she looks like a boy and is planning to start T.. Needless to say her family doesn't know about me which also bothers me.. as if I'm some secret. Everytime I bring up that topic it leads to an argument and her excuse for them not knowing about me or that she's gay is because they don't accept that lifestyle and she says they will never help her out again if ever needed.. I feel as if what they think shouldn't matter because it is not their life. Also we live together in such a short amount of time of even dating. She currently lost her job so I am the only one working and she has not even attempted looking for a job. And no I do not take care of her by giving her money or paying for everything, that is again where her parents come in at. They've been sending her money , oh and they don't even know she is unemployed. She annoys the ever living **** out if me. She does show me affection but I am not an affectionate person and I find her clinginess to be smothering.. I mean the honeymoon stage of our relationship was great, I actually felt like I found the "one" , but I can't deal with the "secret life". I'm not sure what exactly it is, but I am no longer happy at all. I don't even enjoy getting intimate anymore. This relationship is boring and I'm pretty much ready for it to be over. And even when I tell her I'm not happy she says we can fix it..... how can it be fixed when I don't even know where to begin? She lies about petty things such as social media ****. I asked her about a girl who she is constantly "liking" her pics and she said it's no one. I asked her again a week later and she finally admitted that she's an ex. That also led to an argument because I hate being lied to and how would she feel if it were the other way around? And yes I know it's just social media but that's besides the point... I would appreciate some feedback, no negativity please. Just answers to possibly guide me in the right direction

[Gaeta]

Sweetie, you are dating a 21 year old who's confused, in process of sex change, hides who she is to her parents, hides you from her parents and now is pulling some ex sh$t on you. She is a child. She is immature and needs to grow and find herself before entering a relationship. It's time to terminate this. As for you, it's time you look for someone your age, someone mature who's come to term with who they are and hide no secrets to anyone.

[JoeSmith357-1]

Seems like you don't even need to ask this question. You know what to do.

[BaileyB]

I agree with both posts. This relationship is not healthy and won't go the distance. I think it's best that you end it now and look for someone more mature with whom you can have a more healthy relationship. Best of luck.