Shaneomac Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 Hello all , what are your thoughts on a 25 guy dating a 18 year old i just met her a month ago shes nice and all , but i have a bad feeling in stomach not sure if its just the age or what , i know the last gf i had robbed me for every wanting another relationship again , because on what she did to me so i think everybody is like that .. we talk all the time shes great , but she just recently broke up with her bf 4 months ago and i think tonight i think might still have feelings for him .. like tonight she msg me and the way she said everything made it seem like she was rushed to stop talking to me like someone was coming and guess didn't want her to msg me ? perhaps her ex bc i know he dont leave her alone .. 2 months ago when i first talked to her i msg her and she said im sorry i cant talk right now i dont want to wake my ex up . so i got all confused and she said we are not together just sleeping in same bed ?? got confused .. So i think leads me to think its about her ex tonight. and i cant deal with mind games . Anyways what do you think i should do ? is it wrong to date a girl that young at my age ? and if i do what is the best advice .
smudge21 Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 Go with your instincts. From what you said, especially the whole sleeping in the same bed thing, I think you know what is going on here and where this will end. She's very young and therefore her ex will have that hold of her from being her first love (maybe), so it could be hard for her to leave... but she shouldn't call him an ex and date others if that's not the case. Either talk it out with her, be firm but nice (no need to be a dick) or walk away and see if she comes chasing.
Author Shaneomac Posted July 27, 2016 Author Posted July 27, 2016 Go with your instincts. From what you said, especially the whole sleeping in the same bed thing, I think you know what is going on here and where this will end. She's very young and therefore her ex will have that hold of her from being her first love (maybe), so it could be hard for her to leave... but she shouldn't call him an ex and date others if that's not the case. Either talk it out with her, be firm but nice (no need to be a dick) or walk away and see if she comes chasing. Thanks for reply , well the past few days shes saying she is not feeling good , confused ect . but today she dont seem like she was a few days ago shes not flirty kinda seems like she is trying hard to avoid me perhaps . i noticed her ex tagged her in one of face book post and i noticed she likes his recent pics of him from a day go could be nothing , still aloud to be friends with a ex .. but i dont know i have a bad feeling , right now im just waiting for or if she says anything ., its weird because she didnt say anything about her ex while we went on a date . and she seemed like she really was into me .. i dont know its weird situation im in and i think the age of her is ultimately might end up being the whole nervous phase im going through . sucks because you know never know could be good but not if a ex is in the picture but i didnt say anything back to her since this morning ill wait for her to msg me if not than ill move on , the big problem with me is i get attached to easily and it gives me unnecessary grief .. but i guess we shall see what happens but i dont think its going to be pretty .
Author Shaneomac Posted July 27, 2016 Author Posted July 27, 2016 Update she has yet to talk to me , the last time she chatted she didnt seem the same not as flirty kinda avoiding .. so i guess she is back with her ex .
Author Shaneomac Posted August 2, 2016 Author Posted August 2, 2016 I dont know what she wants , she is not as flirt with me .. curious on what she is doing ..would like to know but not sure how to ask about her ex , but seems to me thats what it is . hmm confusing for sure .
Methodical Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 Leave her alone. She's 18, just out of high school, possibly going to college. At 25, chances are you sowed those independent oats a few years ago, she has not. She's sleeping with another guy. Even if their relationship leans toward the platonic side, she is not ready to move on. Plus, she has halted her communication with you. There's nothing to discuss. Move on.
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