Redhead14 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 I met this great girl 3 months ago via an online dating app and we hit it off immediately. She began texting me every day and I proceeded to take her dancing and on other dates, ending with awesome makeout sessions. A few more dates and we were having sex, and her interest level escalated even further. I would wake up to a "goodmorning" text EVERY single morning, and would receive a "goodnight, sweet dreams" text every single night. She would text me every day and often texted looking to hang out and come over. When we were on trips apart she would tell me she misses me. She asked about my past relationships, and future, and one time even stated she'd love to meet my family. I knew she was thinking about getting serious and things seemed to be going great. Then one night when we were all out with friends at a concert she hinted about how her and her sister (she lives with her sister) may be moving back, in 4 months, to the state from which they had moved from the year before. She had no absolute obligations to move (other than their apartment lease would be up), just expressed she probably was going to (this raised a flag.) That night she also drunkenly kind of expressed the "WOOOO I'M SINGLE!" cheer when a band says "any single ladies out there?!" The week around this timeframe I noticed her contact decreased some and she wasn't saying the things she had been, and also wasn't trying to see me as much. When she would come over to hang out, she wasn't as touchy as she had been. This continued for another week or two, but we still hung out with each other, went to another concert, and the "couple" like things such as texting every day, holding hands, and kissing continued all the way up until this very moment: One night I mentioned my desire for her and she says "I'm not ready for a relationship." I was pretty confused considering how she had acted, and backed off immediately. Didn't hear a word for 2 weeks from her and I finally got in touch saying I'd like to see her. I basically wanted to see her in person and judge whether her body language was giving off if she wasn't interested anymore, or not. We met at a bar, had a good time, and nice chat (nothing about relationship or "us") and when we went to leave I went to kiss her and she openly received and we had a great makeout session again. She texted me asking if i got home and told me sweet dreams. But since, her contact is still non existent. I've tried a few times to see her, and she's given a few excuses. I'm just rattled at what could have happened when a girl's interest level was genuinely RED ****ing hot and then she seemingly just dropped "us" entirely, when everything seemed to be so good? One note that I should make that was somewhat alarming, when we were seeing each other: She never would stay at my house. During the week she would say she has to get ready very early for work (true). But even on the weekends she should avoid it. She once mentioned that she didn't want to "explain herself to her sister." And it seems her sister is similar to a mother figure to her. But it has me scratching my head as to what she was really avoiding? Did you two ever have an actual conversation about what you each wanted out of your dating journey's? I mean did you just go through the dating process without making sure you were on the same page in terms of being with each other at any point? She may have been really enjoying herself and sending you sweet nothings, etc. without ever having the intention of developing a long-term relationship with you. Did you advance things with her along the way, i.e. ask her for exclusivity or to be your girlfriend? Not that that would guarantee anything, but if you weren't upping things with her and she was looking for signs from you and not getting that, she might bail because she didn't think you were serious. If you had been doing all that, I'd just chalk it up to whatever else is going on in her life that made her turn away. She's thinking about moving, so she would likely not want to keep putting emotional investment in you. The way she handled this is immature anyway, so you dodged a bullet I'd say.
biker23 Posted August 12, 2016 Posted August 12, 2016 This has happened to most of us. I had similar where we both said I love you and a week later she, I found out later, saw an old friend that excited her and questioned us. Fall in love quick, easily question and fall out of love. My advice is continue no contact and better yourself. Work harder at career. Get in better shape. And dates others. If she has any interest, she will contact you. yes. It's. Hard.
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