napster007 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 So I've been with this girl for 6 months now and I'm having a few problems with her past. She was in a relationship of 4 years and the guy treated her like a goddess. So she's got a lot of ego. The thing is that the guy performed oral sex(she counts 6/7) on her but she never reciprocated. Kinda like one way road. I on the other hand dated two girls and didn't even get a proper smooch from either of them. My relationships were like only a few month long duration. I lied to her about my past about sleeping with both of them. I'm afraid(little sure) that if I tell her the truth she will get an ego boost and take me for granted and treat me a little inferiorly. She already has this jealousy thing that she plays on me. So should I tell her the truth or wait for sometime as it's just 6 months. Also I accept the fact that my ego is hurt that someone else was down there before me. How do I deal with that? P.S There is no problem in our sexual life currently.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Before I give any advice, can I ask your ages, OP? 1
Bichunmoo Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 I think you should start thinking about if youse will work out lol. What kind of girl is she. Because if she's the type to just make you jealous like that, you should really talk to her and tell her to stop. OR leave her before you get too attached. If you REALLY like her and she is loyal. I would probably never tell her I never actually slept with anyone lol. Uneccesary information like that doesn't need to be told until marriage lol. Just don't lie about that to her eye lol. And as for getting over that sexual part. Who cares dude. YOUR the one tapping it now. Just always remember that. She's with YOU NOW and not with him. He's not the one tapping anything and if he doesn't care? Even better. Make her feel good in bed 10 times a night and she'll never forget THAT I'm sure of it. 1
HumanMachine Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 He ate her pudding 6/7 times over a 4 year relationship? Am i missing something? 1
smackie9 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 I think you should just let it go....be happy you are finally getting some.
Author napster007 Posted July 25, 2016 Author Posted July 25, 2016 Before I give any advice, can I ask your ages, OP? She's 21, I'm 20.
MidwestUSA Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 What exactly is there to tell her the truth about? Just get down there and eat like it's an endless buffet. Make her forget about any past experiences. Perfect your technique. She'll drop the ego and beg you for it. Someone else was there? It happens, she's surely showered a few times. Go!
preraph Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 Your insecurities are running your love life. That needs to stop. No, don't tell her anything about what you did or didn't do. And she really shouldn't have told you either, for obvious reasons, because now you're butthurt which is totally irrational. You're just afraid she has more experience and won't be happy with your performance or something. And that is not necessarily true. Women are very forgiving at first as long as the guy is treating them like a date and not hiding behind being "just a friend" and isn't so insecure they're afraid to make a move or get jealous because they weren't the only lover. These are your issues, not hers. Telling her is a bad idea.
Author napster007 Posted July 31, 2016 Author Posted July 31, 2016 So I took the advice and told her the truth. She was all smiles and happy about it. She actually cried on the phone and I guess it was bothering her. Regarding the intimacy part she had never had an orgasm before. I was the first one to make her shower . Although it still bugs me a little I guess I gotta deal with it. Sorry for the bump but hope I did the right thing guys.
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