Flowerpower1997 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 My ex kinda boyfriend and I were complicated. We dated for 6 months and he broke up with me because we were very immature. We did not speak for 6 months, until one day after having a normal flirty conversation he texted me. Since then, 2 years or so, we have spoken everyday and admitted to being inlove still. We would hangout regularly, facetime all night, and everyone knew we were involved even though we never officially dated again. About a month ago, when I was emotional I told him I didn't want to date that I'm too scared to go through a breakup. We both cried and things resolved themselves. This past week I could tell he was acting differently, and he told me he realized he thinks its best we end now because in a year I will be the hardest goodbye as we leave for school. In the meantime I found out he was texting a girl, and we got into a huge fight about him lying to me. He says he loves me and will always be here for me but right now he doesn't feel like himself and needs to focus on him. I cried and told him I do want to be together (I have problems showing my real emotions) and he said he thinks it is best right now. As he dropped me off from our talk, we hugged and said we will miss one another, and that if we are meant to be we will be, and that he is always here for me. He reminded me that he is always here for me as he walked away. Last night we snapchatted but he didnt respond to one of mine. The day before he texted me asking if it was okay if he came to lunch where a bunch of us were, and I didn't respond. We talk normally, it is very weird. Will he be back? What do I do?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 You need to finally cut the cord with him. Why were you two unofficial for two years? In other words, who didn't want to commit? It is going to be strange not talking to him all the time, but you now know you're not the only one he's speaking to. I think it's time you moved on. He already has.
Silver_star Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 He is emotionally unavailable with you. That is what his actions are telling you. He doesn't want you as his girlfriend. Why bother when he can get what he really wants from you without a real commitment. He isn't thinking about a relationship long term because of whatever roadblock is in the future (school). He might be back for what he wants when he wants (physical intimacy) but it doesn't sound like he will be wanting to settle down anyways, but you never know. I would suggest moving on to someone who won't waste your time and string you along for some half-assed romance. there are guys that would put in the effort regardless of some future roadblock. 1
basil67 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Sweetie, this relationship was uncommitted at best. And then you told him " I didn't want to date that I'm too scared to go through a breakup" which would have been the final nail in the coffin. Go and enjoy your life and be secure in the knowledge that you will find a much better, secure relationship in the future.
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