Lamar Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Me and my ex was together since 9th grade. Everything was going good then all of a sudden out of no where she say she want to break up. She didnt even give me a reason but it seem obvious why after i seen her kissing another guy a couple of days later. She Tryed to lie and say that he was just her friend, but that very next month she was pregnant by him. That crushed me. I cant stop thinking about after all that. WHAT SHOULD I DO???
ConfusedInOC Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Lamar Me and my ex was together since 9th grade. Everything was going good then all of a sudden out of no where she say she want to break up. She didnt even give me a reason but it seem obvious why after i seen her kissing another guy a couple of days later. She Tryed to lie and say that he was just her friend, but that very next month she was pregnant by him. That crushed me. I cant stop thinking about after all that. WHAT SHOULD I DO??? The only thing you can do. Focus on yourself. Get some hobbies. Try and get her out of your mind. Don't talk to her anymore (no emails, calls, text, pages, IM - NOTHING). Move on with your life. Anyone that has left you was never part of your destiny. Heal yourself. That's all you can do. Good luck.
Author Lamar Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 ITS HARD...LAST MONTH JUST OUT OF THE BLUE SHE SENT ME AN EMAIL, I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW SHE GOT MY E-MAIL ADDRESS TO MY SHIP, BUT ANYWAY I WISH IT WAS EASIER DONE THAN SAID, I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HER
ConfusedInOC Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Lamar ITS HARD...LAST MONTH JUST OUT OF THE BLUE SHE SENT ME AN EMAIL, I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW SHE GOT MY E-MAIL ADDRESS TO MY SHIP, BUT ANYWAY I WISH IT WAS EASIER DONE THAN SAID, I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HER I've just been through this. It sucks, I don't know what else to tell you. You'll need to grieve for a while. But try and do it at set times during the day. Like 1/2 hour in the am and 1/2 hour in the evening. Do not allow yourself to think about her outside of those times. Focus on your hobbies. I had a hard time not thinking about the Ex but a few things helped: 1. Write down and her CONS (all the bad things you didn't like about her) and post it somewhere where only you can see it. Remind yourself of the things about her that bugged you. 2. Get rid of everything you have that reminds you of her. 3. Tell yourself that she didn't deserve you. It's hard at first, but realize if you were good to her and she still left, she NEVER deserved you. And she may come to regret it one day, but just worry about you. 4. Occupy your mind with positive thoughts. 5. Hang out with friends a lot. 6. EXERCISE! It helps tremendously. At least 1 hour of cardio/weights a day. 7. Talk to friends but do not wear them out on the relationship. Give yourself at least 4 months to get over it (1 month for every year you were together). It takes time but I promise, you will get over her.
JenDoe Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Lamar, you are so young hun! You have the world out in front of you. Trust me, I GUARANTEE that with time, you'll look back and think, "eh, that wasn't so bad." Don't put a time limit on your healing, just get out of the house, be active, spend time with friends and family...you'll get over her eventually. I promise you. I promise.
amerikajin Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Lamar, leave her alone man. She's just messing with your mind. She's not trying to be cruel but she wants to know she'll have someone to fall back on in case her current relationship doesn't work out. Don't ever put yourself in the position of being someone else's option B - ever. Just move on. Keep the good memories, learn from your mistakes and find someone new.
westernxer Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Don't worry, she'll take you back when she needs someone to father her child.
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