What is BS thinking?!

[wmacbride]

That is very true. No one dies from a failed relationship. It would be good for your guy to be thinking like that but for whatever reason his own future happiness is far less important if it means having to face the music with his wife in order to achieve that. So that leads me, and many others to believe that the way things are suit him just fine.

 

My confusion is, if you don't want him to divorce, and he is trying everything he can to leave trails so that he gets caught, why in the world do you care if his wife finds out or not? Is it because then you think the stress will become unbearable for him and he will have to drop you?

 

If that is your fear, then are you both really on the same page about the above statement?

 

I suspect it's because if they divorce, his wife will have just cause for spousal support, meaning he will have less to spend on op.

 

She can;r marry him or move in with him, because if she does, and the administrators of her government funded disability pension find out, she will have her benefits cuts back. Added the notion that her mm will be paying spousal support, and there won't be much money for the two of them.

[Sunkissedpatio]

I suspect it's because if they divorce, his wife will have just cause for spousal support, meaning he will have less to spend on op.

 

She can;r marry him or move in with him, because if she does, and the administrators of her government funded disability pension find out, she will have her benefits cuts back. Added the notion that her mm will be paying spousal support, and there won't be much money for the two of them.

 

Okkkk....but then she should be happy the wife hasn't found out, or is "looking the other way" Still makes no sense to me.

[NTV]

I find it ironic that the title of this post is 'What is the BS thinking?!', yet there appears to be no true interest in the answer to that question. lol

[Lobe]

I find it ironic that the title of this post is 'What is the BS thinking?!', yet there appears to be no true interest in the answer to that question. lol

 

As a BS let me chime in and say that the BS is thinking exactly what she has been led to believe by her WS. She's not deluded - she's being played. Funny thing is, based on what she's posted here, I agree that Thinkmore is likely being played pretty hard too since if nothing else, this sounds like a classic exit affair if he is to be believed and actually will leave his wife with or without her being in the picture.

 

Regardless of what the OP does or does not wish to see or believe, in her cognitive dissonance-soaked fantasyland, the following contradictory and often mutually exclusive statements have been made:

 

She does not believe in poaching other women's husbands and is the perfect affair partner yet she is adamant that her MM must stop lying to his wife about her existence.

 

She has no problem being the OW she just worries about the BS's feelings.

 

She believes the BS is in denial but that her own thoughts are crystal clear and based on truth.

 

She believes everything her MM tells her but wants him to stop lying to his wife.

 

She does not need/want his money but she doesn't want to get caught and have her disability cut off.

 

She says she lives a comfortable lifestyle but prefers the perks of him having money and assets made possible by his wife's hard work.

 

She claims she wants his BS to live a comfortable life but doesn't think there's anything wrong with her MM waiting until she sinks her personal money into HIS business before asking for a divorce.

 

She says she doesn't care if he divorces her but has bought a ticket to flaunt poaching him after he asks for a divorce.

 

I could go on describing the delusional state of the OP caused by repeated, desperate attempts at manufacturing plausible avenues of cognitive dissonance, but so far the only consistent thought I have after all this silliness is:

 

Since Thinkmore obviously can't live with MM without losing her disability, after he leaves his wife, loses at least half his assets, moves to where she lives permanently he what... continues dating her but keeps a separate apartment? WTF? Love ain't just blind then - it's downright stupid lol

 

My one hope is that BW gets 100% of the business in the divorce settlement - she deserves that after working so hard to pay it off while he went and had an affair instead of having the nads to say, "I'm not happy and I want a divorce.".

[NTV]

Lobe so... if I'm hearing you right. .. the moral of the story is... lying is bad?

[Lobe]

Lobe so... if I'm hearing you right. .. the moral of the story is... lying is bad?

 

The moral of the story is: 42.

[Robert]

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Thanks,

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