Thisisaf1rst Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 So a little back story me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago and it was really messy. After we first broke up there was contact still for about a month and I got her a gift which was from my grandma it was a gold necklace with a pendant custom made. When I gave it to her it seemed like things were going good but then fizzled out quickly. Today I looked at her Instagram which I know is never good but I had to and she had a picture up the same day still wearing the necklace and to be honest in all the pictures in the past couple of months she's wearing it plain to see. Why would she still be taking pictures with it?
BlueIris Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 It could be that she loves the jewelry. I still love and wear jewelry from exes. It wouldn't bother me if they still loved and used things I gave them- I hope they do.
TXGuy Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Don't be optimistic about it. Women keep the jewelry they get from guys and (of course) continue to wear it. It means absolutely nothing. Sorry if you were hoping for a different answer.
mortensorchid Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 You gave it to her as a gift, she likes the jewelry, and she is keeping it. End of story. If it was an engagement ring? That's another matter. If two people are engaged and the woman breaks it off, she should return the ring. If the man breaks it off, the woman has the right to keep the ring as a gift. There have been lawsuits filed over these things. Do you want the jewelry back?
Author Thisisaf1rst Posted July 25, 2016 Author Posted July 25, 2016 No I don't want it back its just she expressed how much it meant to her before we stopped getting in contact. I have tried to get in contact with her a few times and she's only replayed once saying she hopes my family is doing ok and take care at 4 am. I've just been reading a lot only and it was weird to me that she still wore it considering how messy of a break up it was. Why would she want to be reminded if things ended so badly
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 I'm with some others. She may simply like it. That simple, really. I would be more upset if I found out if an ex threw nice jewelry that I bought away. I don't read anything into the wearing of the jewelry other than that she likes it.
TXGuy Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 If it was an engagement ring? That's another matter. If two people are engaged and the woman breaks it off, she should return the ring. If the man breaks it off, the woman has the right to keep the ring as a gift. There have been lawsuits filed over these things. Depends on jurisdiction. However most jurisdictions hold the ring is a conditional gift. If the condition (marriage) did not happen, the ring must be returned, regardless of who calls it off. In practice, many men are just happy to get the ex-fiancee out of their lives and write off the cost of the ring.
HumanMachine Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 My ex still wears jewellery that I got her, I still wear gifts she bought me. Does it mean anything? Nope.
sandylee1 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 I'd say she clearly likes the piece of jewellery and it may well hold some sentiment for her. For me, if it was a messy break up and I hated my Ex, I probably wouldn't wear it, because it's a constant reminder. Also if I still had deep feelings I wouldn't wear it, because it's a reminder of not having that love in my life. I had a gift ab Ex gave me for a few years after we split and I never got rid of it because somewhere deep down I still had feelings for him. Then one day, I saw it and remembered the break up and decided it was going in the bin. I felt nothing for him anymore.
Toodaloo Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 So a little back story me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago and it was really messy. After we first broke up there was contact still for about a month and I got her a gift which was from my grandma it was a gold necklace with a pendant custom made. When I gave it to her it seemed like things were going good but then fizzled out quickly. Today I looked at her Instagram which I know is never good but I had to and she had a picture up the same day still wearing the necklace and to be honest in all the pictures in the past couple of months she's wearing it plain to see. Why would she still be taking pictures with it? Because she likes your Grandma and likes the gift she was given from her... You are over thinking things here. I am afraid your ex probably doesn't think you you when she wears it but instead thinks of a lovely old lady who was kind to her... 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 I have jewelry from exes that I still wear. I wear it because I like it. In my case, it has zero to do with my feelings towards said ex-boyfriends. You're reading too much into it, OP. 2
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