Igazi Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 Hey guys, I really appreciate the help. So me and this girl are both 18 and we met at an island beach. My buddy who knew her introduced me to her and a bunch of her friends that were on the beach. Initially I was hitting on another girl( we were sitting alone away from the others) and she kinda joined in the conversation. She was more of my type so I turned my attention to her. After a while we sat alone and just talked while I made pretty clear that I am interested by asking if she had a boyfriend. She said no and asked if I had a girlfriend. I got her number and since her friends were going to this night club that she said she wasn't very interested in I suggested that we would go out alone. Later that day I called her but she didn't pick up. I waited a bit and called her again but my phone had some sort of problem and got stuck, so I just send her a message telling her that. She replied that she was going to the night club after all. My group of friends that I had gone to the island with had already booked a table at that place so I messaged her that I was probably going to meet her but at that point I thought that she wasn't all that interested which was a real bummer. At the club, after sitting for a while with my buddies, I go towards her and say hi. She just smiles and then I go away to get something to drink. When I go back near to where she was she instantly comes close to me and starts dancing. After a bit we start making out and things got as sexual as they could in a club. Some hours passed and she and her friends had to go so I tell her goodnight and leave. The next day I still thought that she wasn't interested and it was a one night thing but I texted her just in case, telling her I had a great time and that we should go out. She replied after a few minutes telling me she also had a great time and she agreed to going out. I joined her group of friends at night but at the bar we sat alone. We talked and made out. We were both from the same city so she said that we should go out when we return from the island and she even asked if I was going to leave again for holiday and told me when she was going away implying that she wanted us to go out, at least until I would leave to study abroad in 2 months time. She left 5 days earlier than me from the island, I texted her to keep the tension going and when I returned we went out for dinner and then some drinks. I then invited her to come over to my house but she told me that she couldn't because she hadn't told her parents that she was going to sleep somewhere else. I should point out that she is quite shy and the "polite" type of girl so that kind of makes sense. We just went to a dark place on the side of the road and made out with some under the clothes action on her( No oral, just fingers). As were returning she kept saying that she had a really great time and she wants to come to my house next time for a movie( we both knew that we were not going to watch a movie) or maybe go out another time for some food. It was a Saturday and I told her that we should go out tomorrow but she replied that it was her sisters name day( we celebrate that almost like a birthday in my country) but we should definitely meet up in the coming week.. I texted her asking when she could come for that movie but she replied that we should plan that the next time we go out implying that she wanted to a go out another time before we have sex which I found perfectly acceptable. I asked her when she could go out and with a late reply( 3 hours) she said that she has a bunch of things to do this week and can only go out on Thursday or afterwards. I found that pretty weird since she hadn't told me she had things to do when we went out but I just went along with it and said "ok great, I kiss you goodnight"(translated from my language) to which she replied "goodnight, I miss you <3". I had just seen her last night so I found the "I miss you" part a pretty great indicator that she was into me. I texted her through the week and called her on Tuesday and we said that we were going out on Thursday. Everything good so far but on Thursday she sent a message saying " I am really sorry but I can't make it. I will probably can next week, I will text you". I found this really irritating but I decided to called to ask what had happened. Take in mind that I called just 4 minutes after she sent the text but she had her phone off. I called her 4 hours later but she didn't pick up. I decided to not call or text her until she does but the next day( Friday) she didn't text anything or say anything. I went out with my friends that day and as I was sitting on a burger place I see a girl that really looked like her pass by. It was a bit dark so I didn't really think it was her( It actually was). After a while she came and sat on the same shop I was sitting. She didn't seem to notice me although I am pretty sure she did. She was sitting a few tables afar so just to make sure I shouted her name but she didn't answer. As I was leaving I passed in front of her table( still from some distance away) and became sure it was her. I called her out but she didn't answer me the first time, I snapped my fingers and called again and then she looked up. I decided that the best course of action was not to talk to her and not look mad or anything so I just waved said hi and quickly left. The next day she didn't text again and today she still hasn't. I am pretty mad at her but I really want to know what the hell happened and she suddenly lost all interest. Should I text her or just wait? Up until now she never texted first on her own and made pretty clear on several occasions that she doesn't like to take the initiative and prefers it when I do. At this point I would be fine with at least learning what the hell happened that changed her attitude towards me so much.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 I would just forget about this one, OP. She sounds like she is very possibly dating someone, and he gets priority. Thus, when he wants to make plans she places you on hold. Just speculating. I don't think you've done anything wrong per se, but it's pretty clear she's not into it at this point. Save your energy for someone who reciprocates. 1
Author Igazi Posted July 24, 2016 Author Posted July 24, 2016 Thank you very much for the reply. I am probably going to do just that.
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