Maged-84 Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 Me and her work in the same company not same department not working together, I am kind aloof person, she is pretty more sociable and ENGAGED, it started when we talked couple of times, I grew feelings for her intensely and in no time, don't know if she knows it or not but she initiates conversations with me almost daily for hours expressing once that she feels like she knew me long time ago, insisting to know what may bother me asking me not to lie to her, sending gestures that she knows, showing interest, i saw it, others saw it. After one week She told me that I look like I am in love and she knows who i am in love with when i accused her with bluffing she assured me that she knows. Nothing bond us professionally, we even in two different offices and yet she pass by my office almost everyday at the morning to see me and say "Bonjour" with that sweet smile of her and i catch her sometimes giving me fleeting glances and she came and stayed with me at my office couple of times, and most of the rest of the day she is online chatting with me, I don't know if I may call her behavior was sort of flirtatious. when I confront her with what she does she show disappointment in me and how I see it but she still around and she call it FRIENDSHIP, she sort of clingy when I hopelessly tried to stop this she insisted to know why I cant talk to her after she saw me talking to other ladies. after couple of weeks i have reached my emotional peak and told her how much i love her and now i am on all my way down, she dodge it but she showed interest, although she denied her knowledge which she assured few weeks ago denying even having a guess which left me very confused almost on the edge of losing my mind doubting my own senses trying to believe her as i didn't know why she would do that, she doesn't need to do that, her responses fluctuated from changing the subject then she blamed me for it, to "may be" then she showed helplessness by not knowing what to do for me and every time i think that this is the end of it but somehow we get back together and start again the endless loop of me having hope every time she came back reestablishing a communication while I expect that she should not and here again she is letting me down. she would accept more to flirt with her and show her how i find her pretty or say something that imply that I love her rather than telling her "I love you" as she told me once she knows but I don't have to tell her. while our ambiguous kind of relationship kept on, i tried again to express discomfort and may be put an end to it by asking her if she doesn't care if her man know about this, she respond that there is nothing he would be told about!!! I seized a chance that she took few days off for medical reason and didn't contact her, she came back blaming me that I didn't ask about her while everyone else did, she makes it very difficult for me to cut her off, and nothing of what happened bothers her enough to do so. In order not to indulge with more suffocating details, which are many, i hope that this sum it up for you to help me and tell what this is. what is this ? whats in it for her to be in a relationship like this with all its dispute risking her official relationship ? How isn't she fed up of this ? because I am fed up, PS. She proclaim that she loves her fience. Your advice are much appreciated
CarrieT Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 She has a fiancé - that means you two can NOT have a "friendship" because you already are developing feelings for her. What's in it for her? Attention and nothing else. Time to disengage from her entirely and move on.
Author Maged-84 Posted August 7, 2016 Author Posted August 7, 2016 she let me tell her over and over that I love her and she made me feel guilty for it and I apologized, but I figured out that this process has been going on and on for the last 2 weeks she doesnt cut it off while I trying to prove to her that I love her believing that may change her feelings and she made me feel guilty so I apologize again, is she enjoying it ? or does she really want me to stop ?. when I was talking to her that the last I was very rude with her I was very exhausted and she didnt want to let me go part of our conversation went like this Me: I can’t stay in this relationship with you Her: why Me: are you asking why!!! Her: yes tell me Me: So you don’t know why!!! Her: No I don’t I barely can talk with hurricane of words and questions in my head telling her: If by this point you still don’t know why there is no good of telling you Her: why don’t you want to tell me, am I asking something wrong? Me Feeling like she wanted to hear it for the last time telling her screaming: BECAUSE I LOVED YOU, ISNT THAT WHAT YOU WANT HEAR? Her changing the subject: my inbox got a problem I don’t know what’s wrong with my email Me on the edge of losing my mind: are you insane? What are talking about? Her: why we can’t be together, some people can’t be married but they still can be together Me trying to avoid any misunderstanding of extramarital affair which is implied and I have never had the intention for it, told her directing the conversation: you mean as friends? She agreeably : yes Me: I can’t do that Her: you give me good opinions about how to deal with people and how should I react with others, why can’t we? Me having no clue what’s going on or why the persistence: I can’t Her: what do you want me to do? Me can’t take this anymore and don’t want to hang up on her again: nothing nothing Her: so you either get what you want the way you want it or leave it with its good and bad Me: yes, that the way I am Her: but that’s wrong Me: I can’t do anything else, I am tired I am tired I can’t Her: ok as you like, but I want to tell you one last thing Me: what Her: even if I was not engaged, we would not fit each other Me: speechless not breathing doesn’t know what to say, as if someone pour a cold water on me She proceeded: did I say anything wrong Me: no Her: bye Me: bye would you please tell me why she let me do this to myself ? why she made apologize for loving her over and over ? why she didnt want to let me go ? its devastating pain thank you
preraph Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 What it means concerning you personally is that even if she left her fiancee for you, why would you want her knowing that she likes to carry on full-scale emotional relationships on the side? You'd never be able to trust her. She just sounds like an attention pig.
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