inigele14u Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 I'll be straight up... I've fallen out of love with my girlfriend, and I have no FKING IDEA how to tell her. I'm so lost. Because she is so deeply in love with me, and has helped me in so many ways. Honestly she is a good person, and a good girl. She says I'm the only good thing that has happened to her, I don't treat her bad I actually spoil her. But, I know strongly that I don't love her anymore for numerous reasons... Dude, it's not one of those " you owe her respect so tell her " type deals. I live with this woman too. I have options on where to go, but at the same time feel me... like... wtf. I'm so lost. And it tears me in half to fake everything - waiting for a fk up on her part...
joseb Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 I'll be straight up... I've fallen out of love with my girlfriend, and I have no FKING IDEA how to tell her. I'm so lost. Because she is so deeply in love with me, and has helped me in so many ways. Honestly she is a good person, and a good girl. She says I'm the only good thing that has happened to her, I don't treat her bad I actually spoil her. But, I know strongly that I don't love her anymore for numerous reasons... Dude, it's not one of those " you owe her respect so tell her " type deals. I live with this woman too. I have options on where to go, but at the same time feel me... like... wtf. I'm so lost. And it tears me in half to fake everything - waiting for a fk up on her part... Well it is. Everyone thinks their situation is special, but you are in the same boat as 1000s of other people right this minute. It's very sad when a relationship breaks down, but really if you know in your heart of hearts that its over than there is only one thing to do, and that is to tell her. You know her better than anyone on here will, so how you chose to do it is up to you. But do it you must. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 OP, please for her sake, end it. She very likely senses that something isn't right, whether or not she has mentioned it. Sometimes people really do outgrow their relationships, particularly if they're young - how old are you both? I have been on both sides of this coin, and let me tell you I am grateful now we didn't drag it out longer than we did. 1
Author inigele14u Posted July 24, 2016 Author Posted July 24, 2016 I am 21 she is 22. I want to end it, but I feel bad for leaving her alone financially and emotionally.
joseb Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 I am 21 she is 22. I want to end it, but I feel bad for leaving her alone financially and emotionally. Pity is no reason to drag things on. She may be very upset now for a bit, but in a year or two she will be glad you did it now, and not then after wasting both your time on it.
preraph Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 Yeah, she's got to know something isn't right. That you're living with her puts her in a bad position. What you should do is save enough money for her first month's rent somewhere and then tell her you just don't feel the same anymore and that you're sorry and she'll be great for someone but just not you. Don't let her keep coming around and clinging to hope. Tell her you need a clean break and give her the rent money and help her move her stuff out immediately. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 I am 21 she is 22. I want to end it, but I feel bad for leaving her alone financially and emotionally. It's normal to feel bad; you have a conscience and you care about her. It will hurt - that's inevitable. But it will hurt more in the end to drag it out when you know you're not into it anymore; she will feel very strung along in that case. At your ages, it's normal that relationships aren't permanent. Most of us are not with same partners today that we were with in our early 20s. It's a natural stage in life when we're still growing and figuring out who we are. Ultimately, she will be happier with someone who is invested, and the same goes for you. 1
Ami1uwant Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 Being young...I wonder why you feel you have fallen out of love? Maybe you really don't know what love is.
smackie9 Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 If you still care about her that much, you will have that talk with her and explain to her she didn't do anything wrong, it just happened and that you don't think it's fair to fake it/mislead her. Tell her you wish this could be different and didn't have to have this conversation but it's for the best. **Maybe contact her BFF and let them know that she will be needing their emotional support. Then gather up your stuff and sleep on someone's couch. If I were you I would remove most of your stuff before you tell her....it will push you to go through with it. 1
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