lovelifesmile Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 My boyfriend is 18 years old i will be 17 this year.. me and him are with one another ALL DAY... so therefore i have no time to spend time with friends or go out But on the other hand once he leaves my house he goes out and stays out until about 2am!!!! He finds no issue with this.. if i say i wanna go out with a friend or just be alone for the day he makes a big argument saying "its obvious im to clingy" when he's obviously not getting the point...the more i think ab this the more upset i become ... what should i do:o
Redhead14 Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 My boyfriend is 18 years old i will be 17 this year.. me and him are with one another ALL DAY... so therefore i have no time to spend time with friends or go out But on the other hand once he leaves my house he goes out and stays out until about 2am!!!! He finds no issue with this.. if i say i wanna go out with a friend or just be alone for the day he makes a big argument haying "its obvious im to clingy" when he's obviously not getting the point...the more i think ab this the more upset i become ... what should i do:o You should make your boundaries clear! When you are in a relationship you should not have to give up your entire LIFE. People need space. It's normal and a person who truly loves you, will give you that. There needs to be balance. You spend some time with friends, he spends time with friends. There will be things you like to do that he may not like to do, so you do that once in a while and he does what he likes once in a while. Even people who are married get to do stuff they like without their partner. If a partner doesn't respect that, you move on. You're a young woman, start drawing boundaries for yourself. If he has a tantrum, so be it. How much time do you spend with him? 1
Author lovelifesmile Posted July 24, 2016 Author Posted July 24, 2016 we're together basically everyday until he leaves to go home
katiegrl Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 ... if i say i wanna go out with a friend or just be alone for the day he makes a big argument saying "its obvious im to clingy" ... Can you clarify this?^ Your going out with a friend or having some lone time for yourself is the opposite of clingy! It's you wishing to maintain some independence which is a good thing! Did you call him out on that? If he has an issue with that, HE is the clingy one, *not* you. What is obvious is that HE is insecure and feels threatened when you do things without him. Even spending a day by yourself! Geez. You are very young, but you need to stand up for yourself and be stronger. Maintain your boundaries and stick to your guns. He is not being reasonable and his behavior is controlling... You need to nip that shyt pronto!
Arieswoman Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 lovelifesmile, I don't get this My boyfriend is 18 years old i will be 17 this year.. me and him are with one another ALL DAY. Don't you go to school/college/work??
Author lovelifesmile Posted July 24, 2016 Author Posted July 24, 2016 lovelifesmile, I don't get this Don't you go to school/college/work?? we work at the same place so we are together everyday all day
preraph Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 Please take this advice. Do not EVER let a man isolate you from your friends. Your friends will be there long after the man has gone. Your man is doing what he wants and keeping you isolated at home. It's BS. You are young and should not even be tied down to one person. You should be having fun with your friends and dating but NOT looking for marriage because you're far too young. Did you know your brain isn't even fully developed until in the mid-20s? At your age you can't even see the consequences of your actions clearly because that is the last part of your brain to form. These are years to be exploring - which is what your mean bf is doing as much as he wants of but not allowing you to do -- because you are letting him get away with it. But don't just have a huge argument and try to repair this because that is who he is. You can't change him. Love won't change him. Just let him go and reclaim the rest of your life and find someone better. 2
smackie9 Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 Just tell him you have other plans after work, and you will text him later. If he makes a fuss and starts saying bad things about you, just walk away. He may make threats or accuse you of stupid things, but don't play into him flexing his attitude on you. Don't answer any calls/texts/etc if he is being aggressive. Take back your life! He may threaten to breakup with you but don't worry he's just using that to get control....it's all bs he doesn't want to breakup with you....don't buy into it.
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