mg101 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 I've decided I don't want to date until I'm almost over my ex and I've improved myself. But I agreed to chat with a friend's coworker I met briefly last week. Now he's weirding me out. He texts at 730am every morning,texts several times a day, calls me babe, asks "where are you?? Hello babe!" if I don't reply to a text in a few hrs and calls every night. It's been only a week and I've made it clear I'm not looking to date. Isn't this red flag territory? How do I tell him to stop contacting me at this point? If we didn't have a mutual friend I'd just be blunt and block him. Worst of it is this experience is making me actually miss my ex because of the idea that this is what may be out there when I do start dating. I don't need this set back.
JewelD Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 How have you made it clear to him? If you didn't say "Sorry, but I'm not interested in dating", then it's not clear enough. Say that and if it continues, block him. He's one person in a giant sea of men, he's not representative of what dating will be like for you in the future. But I don't let my friends set me up on dates anymore. It's ALWAYS weird when it doesn't work out and friends tend to set you up with just about anything with a pulse if they think you're sad and lonely.
Author mg101 Posted July 23, 2016 Author Posted July 23, 2016 How have you made it clear to him? If you didn't say "Sorry, but I'm not interested in dating", then it's not clear enough. Say that and if it continues, block him. He's one person in a giant sea of men, he's not representative of what dating will be like for you in the future. But I don't let my friends set me up on dates anymore. It's ALWAYS weird when it doesn't work out and friends tend to set you up with just about anything with a pulse if they think you're sad and lonely. Yes, I pretty much said exactly that. " I'm not looking to date at all. " He's a very good guy friends future business partner and current coworker and he asked him for my number after meeting briefly. I initially said no but he asked again for my email. I know he's not representative but I can't lie, it's still making me generalize and freak about prospects a bit.
leogirl876 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Yes, I pretty much said exactly that. " I'm not looking to date at all. " He's a very good guy friends future business partner and current coworker and he asked him for my number after meeting briefly. I initially said no but he asked again for my email. I know he's not representative but I can't lie, it's still making me generalize and freak about prospects a bit. Saying "I'm not looking to date" could mean to him that you are still DTF. So you need to be crystal clear, "Leave me alone, I don't want anything to do with you!!!" 1
preraph Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Just block him. He's not respecting you at all. He thinks he knows better than you. You have no investment in this tool, so block him now because the longer he invests himself, the harder he will be to get rid of.
HappyButBroken Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Blocking him without a warning could lead to an awkward situation, since you got a mutual friend. He might contact your friend to ask what's going on. I'd send an UTTER clear text, that states you want him to stop contacting you. If he continues, warn him you'll block him and do so when he proceeds. Some people just need a clear message before they finally get it.
summertitparadise Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 State your stand clearly. If he continues, block him. Do not need to feel sorry for an ******* who does not understand the language.
jen1447 Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Do you want him to completely stop contacting you at this point or just tone it down?
JoeSmith357-1 Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 he seems pretty needy to me, maybe that's an understatement
Toodaloo Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 I think he has the wrong end of the stick and thinks you want a FB... Simple text. "I want to be single and on my own right now. I am finding all this texting late at night exhausting and want you to stop." I would speak to your mutual friend about it.
Dork Vader Posted August 15, 2016 Posted August 15, 2016 Even if you were dating this guy, I would still say this is a major major red flag. I mean major. Calling every night, intrusive where ya at? messages when you are busy, all of that is red flag. Just quit responding, if he does not take a hint then say something and be polite. That hey, I think you have the wrong idea, I'm not looking to date or anything like that. If he pushes it, then you block his number.
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