Isittolatenow Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 I broke NC. I knew I was going to at some point, because my mind was desperate to text him. Was it worth it? Kinda. Yes. I text him knowing he'd reply. He always will. That makes it harder. I've blocked him and unblocked him so many times. But this certain message has been in my head for a week. I kept putting it off, thinking 'if it's still important on .... I'll send it' hoping my brain would say 'it's not important. Don't send it, think of yourself, not him.' I sent it. We've been back & forth for 2 days now. Although this time, he's shown his true colours. He's been lovely. Compliments etc, ('always good to feel pretty, but you have no problems with that anytime') but he's shown me the real him. We both went out last night - separately, he text me this morning saying 'My head is banging. Alcohol sucks. Hear you were in xxx (local hotel) last night. Naughty girl!! Anyone I know?! ' We went back & forth a few times. I told him I'd been asked out on a date he put 'I'm not surprised looking like you did last night. You should go if you want too??' So I replied with 'haha! Still thinking about it at the moment'. He then changed the subject to talk about the 5 hour drive he's got to do today, I put 'safe drive', he sent the thumbs up emoji. This time I have no hope. This time I'm not thinking he's texting me because he wants me back, he's texting me because I'm letting him text me. He's after hooking up. This morning I felt sad, this morning I thought it wasn't worth it. But y'know what, it kinda is. It's realisation, and I needed it. 1
Traceycprc Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 As hard as it it, dust yourself off and reinstate NC. It's time to move on, yes you have realised you are not getting back together. He would be making every effort to get you back if that is what he really wanted. It's time to look after you, invest the time in you. I know everyone goes on about take up a hobby, meet new people, go traveling. The thing is, it really works! I have got into running and I got myself a puppy which I'm training and absolutely adore. I feel so much better for it, just looking after me, sure I still miss my ex but with time it will get easier. Just build yourself back up, and when you are ready the right guy will come along that wants to share the happy life you are living. I broke NC. I knew I was going to at some point, because my mind was desperate to text him. Was it worth it? Kinda. Yes. I text him knowing he'd reply. He always will. That makes it harder. I've blocked him and unblocked him so many times. But this certain message has been in my head for a week. I kept putting it off, thinking 'if it's still important on .... I'll send it' hoping my brain would say 'it's not important. Don't send it, think of yourself, not him.' I sent it. We've been back & forth for 2 days now. Although this time, he's shown his true colours. He's been lovely. Compliments etc, ('always good to feel pretty, but you have no problems with that anytime') but he's shown me the real him. We both went out last night - separately, he text me this morning saying 'My head is banging. Alcohol sucks. Hear you were in xxx (local hotel) last night. Naughty girl!! Anyone I know?! ' We went back & forth a few times. I told him I'd been asked out on a date he put 'I'm not surprised looking like you did last night. You should go if you want too??' So I replied with 'haha! Still thinking about it at the moment'. He then changed the subject to talk about the 5 hour drive he's got to do today, I put 'safe drive', he sent the thumbs up emoji. This time I have no hope. This time I'm not thinking he's texting me because he wants me back, he's texting me because I'm letting him text me. He's after hooking up. This morning I felt sad, this morning I thought it wasn't worth it. But y'know what, it kinda is. It's realisation, and I needed it.
BC1980 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Maybe you needed to contact him one last time to really see that he doesn't want to get back together. I think he was just texting you back to be friendly or, as you said, he wanted a hook up down the line. Either way, he told you to accept the date that asked you out. So it's pretty clear at this point. I would go back to NC.
Author Isittolatenow Posted July 23, 2016 Author Posted July 23, 2016 What was the reason for your break up? The distance in our relationship. We were 350KM apart as he relocated for his job. I have kids from my previous relationship as does he. It just got too hard in the end to maintain lives, jobs, kids and each other
Author Isittolatenow Posted July 23, 2016 Author Posted July 23, 2016 Maybe you needed to contact him one last time to really see that he doesn't want to get back together. I think he was just texting you back to be friendly or, as you said, he wanted a hook up down the line. Either way, he told you to accept the date that asked you out. So it's pretty clear at this point. I would go back to NC. He's been telling me to find someone closet since we split, we hooked up once and he admitted he'd hate it if I did. (Then majorly freaked when I went on an actual date and threatened to kick the mans a$$ ) I'm back in NC, but I think you're right. I had to text him myself one last time for the clarity I received from it. Thanks for your advice
kristyxxbrickley24 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 The distance in our relationship. We were 350KM apart as he relocated for his job. I have kids from my previous relationship as does he. It just got too hard in the end to maintain lives, jobs, kids and each other Seems like the break up was mutual. I think you guys could try to work things out.
BC1980 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 He's been telling me to find someone closet since we split, we hooked up once and he admitted he'd hate it if I did. (Then majorly freaked when I went on an actual date and threatened to kick the mans a$$ ) I'm back in NC, but I think you're right. I had to text him myself one last time for the clarity I received from it. Thanks for your advice Sometimes, even if they don't want to be with you, an ex can get jealous if you move on. Probably not years down the line but relatively soon after it ends. When you went on a date, it probably hit him that this was over, and that could be hard for him, even if he doesn't want you back. It's also an ego thing. In his mind, you moved on first, and that's always hard on the ego. Save
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