Goldenboi Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Hey guys new to the loveshack community, Sorry for any grammar mistakes and the long boring story. Well I'll start with myself I'm 23 years old I live in Cali and I'm a recovering alcoholic. I live alone and I'm pretty responsible. I go to school, gym, church, aa meetings, go out and have fun without drinking alcohol. I am a small business owner make a decent living to support myself and I pay my own taxes lol. I met this girl at an aa anniversary party about 9 months ago. We Hit it off I added her on Facebook and we got to know each other there before we actually went out on a date. I then found it she has a five year old son which didn't really bother me since everyone deserves a chance. All in all it was going good and I ended up falling for this girl which is my first love. Which sucks because I usually date girls and then I end up seeing there defects and end up breaking there hearts and breaking up with them. So this probably karma getting me back for hurting all those girls. The reason me and this girl broke up was because I was wrestling with her son and I accidentally hurt him. No I'm not a child abuser or anything I really love kids so I realize I messed up big. So I started no contact did it for a month and a half. She didn't block me from Facebook or anything but I didn't contact her. I contacted her a few weeks prior to today and it seemed like she wanted to talk again so I called her but she told me she doesn't want to see me or hangout. So I left it like that I sent her message telling her to forgive me and that's it and didn't call her for another week. i ended up calling her she didn't pick up and I left her a voice message telling her my feelings and ironically she called me back during the message which I didn't pick up because I was busy leaving the voice message. I waited a few days and called her again to see if she got my voice message she answered I didn't message the voice mail and she told me to call her back some other time because she was at the gym or something. I sent her a message and said that I'm going to win her back and she said good luck,and I asked her if she still has feelings for me and she said she used to but not anymore. I ended up calling her today and I told her if she was willing to hangout she denied me and I asked her why and we got In a small argument and she told me that she never had feelings for me. I freaked out and ended up sending her like 6 messages and tried calling her like 3 times. I luckily stopped my self from saying anything mean. Finally I messaged her a really long sentimental message stating that I loved her which I have never really told her and how she is a great girl and that I miss her and if she ever needs anything that I was there for her. I really have worked on myself and feel like this girl is the one. In the end this girl put up with a lot of my bs, and don't know how she stayed with me so long, maybe she loved me but who knows. I have this gut feeling that I still have a chance usually my gut feelings aren't wrong. I'm going to keep trying since I don't quit even if my chances are grim. There's going to be a small reunion tomorrow food and dancing she is gonna be there. I'm thinking about going and charm her again . thoughts about my situation?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 You cannot tell someone to forgive you, OP. You can ask for forgiveness. And leave it in their hands. The most important thing here is that she told you more than once that it's over. You need to respect her boundary. Don't be pushy by continuing to call and message her. I can tell you from experience that it's very irritating when you've ended a relationship but the other party won't accept it. Leave her alone for now. When you see her, be courteous but don't try to insert yourself into her life or charm her. That will backfire. She knows how you feel and where you are if she wants to contact you.
Recommended Posts