Jaker1993 Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 (edited) Hi guys never posted anything like this before but I really am stuck for help and down in the dumps. I was with a girl for a year it started off well but then we argued and the arguments got way out of hand, I use to think it was all me but I know it wasnt she does blame me for most of it though, we saw each other pretty much everyday, i done so much for her. Anyways after trying to make it work the last argument went to far and she then said we can no longer be together, although we argued we also had very good times and made some amazing memories, we broke up before and after 2 days she realised she was wrong and asked for me back. After the second break up I really knew deep down that maybe I could of helped things abit more and so could she, she was extremely heartless and twisted every thing I said to her during this breakup. I helped her so much with her diabetes and she just said i put her down all the time which is a lie, it was the hardest thing ive ever been through, I did the whole begging thing because I was so lost and she just didn't want to know at all and blocked all contact with me, so I tried to move on but she was messaging a family member saying how she missed the family about 3 months later, and they asked if she would speak to mee, she said she wasn't ready and now wasn't a great time . I pretty much thought about her everyday and I wouldn't say I moved on because deep down I was waiting for her to come back. I told the family member I want to see her and somehow she found out and rang me, the phone call was horrible she kept saying there's no chance we can ever get back together and why are you doing this now even though I've wanted to speak to her but i couldn't as she blocked all contact I said she was the love of my life .. and my life is going pretty amazing but it's missing you and the time away has made me realise what needs to change for us to be happy, she said she has moved on and proceeded to tell me some stuff that really broke me down saying she has met a new guy and it's amazing he treats her so perfect and her life is so good, the guy had apparently left a 10 year marriage for her and loads of things had to be sorted for it to work, she was rubbing it in my face so badly this absolutely tore me apart because I really wanted her back I feel as if I'm now back to square one, she knows I'm doing really well with my life but I did get upset on the phone, I'm 23 and she is 20, I just can't bare the thought of her bein with someone else she uses everything against me. What do I do I miss her so much but I can't keep putting myself through all this hurt whilst she continues to be so "happy" without me. She drinks alot of alcohol and smokes with type 1 diabetes she doesn't really care about her life, but she seems to love hurting me when she can. I don't know what to do anymore I've been on other dates but nothing feels the same everyone says to let her go but it kills me inside because I know what needs to be changed to make it work me and my family done so much for her. Please help me guys I've been dreading writing a post I thought I'd be strong enough to just let go but I can't. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this. Edited July 21, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator added paragraphs ~6
preraph Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 Contacting her family member and using them to get to her is a big feature on any "stalking behavior" list, so stop it and stop making this her problem. It's over. It wasn't going well anyway, and now it's over. It's never going to go well, and you need to get a grip on yourself and stop bugging her and move on. I know you're young and things seem so dramatic at your age, but you have years and decades ahead of you to find someone you are a better match with. Any continuing to get to her or contact her or use her family or sneak up on her is just rank disrespect for her and she knows that even if you don't see it that way. It's time you reached down deep and pulled out some self-discipline. As my sister once told me "When you get tired of being miserable, you'll stop being miserable." Remember there is a better future ahead, but only if you don't entrench yourself in the past.
Author Jaker1993 Posted July 21, 2016 Author Posted July 21, 2016 I never contacted her my family member only contacted her about her diabetes andd other conditions she had and to see how she was doing with it, she then said how she missed everyone, I'm sorry but her telling me she is so much happier with a bloke that apparently left his wife of 10 years for a 20 year old girl and ripping into me by saying how much better it is, is aabsooutely vile ino I deserve so much better then that but thanks for your comment
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