JewelD Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 I've been having a lot of dreams lately. Yesterday, I was thinking about some of the people I used to talk to/date in Chicago since I'll be going home for a week long visit. Then I had a dream about one of those people last night and it was really good. I woke up sort of happy until I remembered me and this person had a falling out and we don't talk anymore. It was my choice and there was good reason for it, but those "dream" feelings are still there. Like, I like this person even though I know I don't like this person. If that makes sense. I'm assuming it will go away as I go on about my day. This ever happen to anyone else?
Zahara Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 Yes, it's happened to me and sometimes at the oddest of times especially when I haven't thought about them in a long time. The "dream" feelings feel real and it gets me down but it always passes within the day or so. I'm completely over an ex and cringe whenever I think about him but these past couple of weeks, I've had two dreams about him and both were quite the opposite of what our relationship was all about. Happy dreams. Still woke up sad even though in reality, I'm over him and feel nothing for him. Just your subconscious mind at work. 1
preraph Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 You're just examining your feelings as you dream because of the upcoming trip. I usually don't have nightmares but have anxiety dreams like trying to find a clean restroom or trying to make a phone call and not being able to hit the right digits. But I had a series of nightmares the week the officers were killed in Dallas, which is understandable. One dream was remarkable because you know how in a bad dream, you are usually too frozen with fear to act? Well, I kept having this one scenario where I knew this big person was in my house, had invaded my home. I was worried about myself and my dogs. The first two times I saw them in the hallway, I couldn't act, had that usual nightmare "frozen in fear" reaction, but then I got it together and got up and followed behind the person into the kitchen and actually jumped the person to protect my home. Then I woke up as soon as I did. On waking, I was driven to get proactive in supporting the police during this crisis, as most people who live here and across the US were, and that's what it took to exorcise the bad dreams. Sometimes dreams drive us to action and take something from our subconscious and push it into our conscious. Sometimes the reason they're not in the conscious to begin with are because maybe there are bad associations, like your problem with your old Chicago friends, but your subconscious made sure you gave it some waking thought before your trip, and maybe this will alleviate some anxiety about the trip in the process. 1
Author JewelD Posted July 23, 2016 Author Posted July 23, 2016 Welp, my curiosity and boredom got the better of me and I texted the girl I dreamt about. Things went South verrrryyy quickly. Like a full blown, never coming back from this argument. Lesson learned. I knew I shouldn't have reached out bc we had already fallen out over some bs that was her fault but I guess I had this image in my head that we could at least hang out and enjoy each other's company. Now I know I need to leave the past in the past, but it sucks when the present isn't really offering much to me in the dating aspect. It was different when I dated men, but now that I'm dating women, **** seems sooo bleak. Like I don't go out thinking a woman is ever going to approach me in my day to day life bc she wouldn't necessarily know I was gay. and I know I'd be too shy to approach a woman and ask if she was gay. Do people do that? anyway, I don't see it happening unless I'm at a gay bar or using OLD. There are no gay bars out here and I truly hate OLD. I know I can't rush it, but seriously, wtf.
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