ricardomtz Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me on May 9th of this year. She was distancing herself for a few months beforehand because I wasn't trying hard at all in our relationship. We constantly argued about how she felt more like my friend than my girlfriend. I just got really comfortable in our relationship I guess. But yeah we had a mutual friend who we both were close to. He apparently had feelings for her for a while and decided to tell her on May 7th that he had feelings. She didn't tell me anything and on May 7th we went on a date and everything seemed fine. On the 8th, we didn't really talk because I was stuck at work and it was crazy busy so yeah pretty much saw her in the morning and didn't talk to her til night. The next day in the morning she tells me that she wasn't happy anymore and that she needed to be on her own before she could love me and you know all the other cliche stuff. I did my crying and begging and all that stuff for the first week. I even asked if it was for her to be with him and she denied it. I kept asking and she finally told me she might have feelings for him. I told her she shouldn't date him and all this stuff and she didn't care. So I decide to go into NC, 2 days in she texts me saying she was mad about the fact that I told her parents about the break up and that her mom was pissed off about it. I calmed her down and she told me that I still had a chance, and that she still loved me. I told her it wasn't too late and she told me it just couldn't be now. So later that week she tells me it's just done, she doesn't think I'll ever have a chance. I confronted her on this and we had our final talk outside of her house, where she told me that she is now with our friend and that she is happy to be with him. She told me to move on because we're not getting back together ever. I told her if I walk out of your life now I'm not coming back and she didn't care, she told me to go and I did. 30 days later I start a conversation between me and her, through texts, just to remind her that a band she liked was coming to town. The conversation was starting off good, we opened up about our dreams in life and how we were doing. She then started rubbing it in my face that she is happier with her new bf and that life is better without me. I shrugged it off and said I was happy for her. Then she started to bring up the fact that she was still mad about what happened between me and her parents. She told me she couldn't trust me and held on to a lot of anger from the break up. I told her I just wanted to be friends and she told me "You want be the friend but you couldn't be the boyfriend?". She is still very angry obviously. Things got emotional between us, and we argued and she didn't reply once I told her I didn't want to fight. Few days later I text her and she doesn't reply but I get a text from her new bf saying to leave her alone. I did that and I now plan on not chasing her but to move on and see where that takes me. I here they're moving really fast in their relationship so I still wonder if a rebound or gigs is possible. I know I shouldn't be wanting to take her back. But I really still love her even through all this. I just don't know my chances or what to do. I'm getting the urge to talk to her again but I just don't know.
JonB Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 Feels like a Rebound, don't want to influence you but she has feelings for u, but probably she is hurt, and the "Rub on your face her happiness shows that. I think u should stick with the NC plan.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 21, 2016 Posted July 21, 2016 That anger is misplaced guilt. You have every right to be angry, though. Why on earth do you even want to be friends with her? Sorry, but this girl is ridiculous and I wouldn't believe for a hot second your friend only told her his feelings two days before she broke up with you. It was probably brewing between them for a while, right under your nose. In all likelihood they were getting cozy for a couple months and she got confirmation that he wanted to be with her on May 7. I guarantee it was not the first inkling she had that he liked her, too. You need to go back to No Contact. Her heart is with someone else now and she isn't very mature, anyway. Forget the both of them. 1
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