Zoe11374 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I've noticed when I start exchanging messages with a guy, he proposes talking on the phone as the next step before meeting. What is the point of this? You cannot detect chemistry over the phone. Anyone else feel like this is a waste of time? I think I'd rather just meet at a casual place. 1
kolleamm Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 He wants to see how dedicated you are, and also wants to see how you react to a conversation. He is probably tired of first dates not going anywhere.
katiegrl Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I've noticed when I start exchanging messages with a guy, he proposes talking on the phone as the next step before meeting. What is the point of this? You cannot detect chemistry over the phone. Anyone else feel like this is a waste of time? I think I'd rather just meet at a casual place. I can! Via his voice, how he speaks, etc. A man's voice is super important to me.... I would never agree to meet in person without hearing his voice, even for a couple of minutes. A voice can make it or break it. I don't think I am alone in that thinking either (this is has been discussed in prior threads). 3
SwordofFlame Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I can! Via his voice, how he speaks, etc. A man's voice is super important to me.... I would never agree to meet in person without hearing his voice, even for a couple of minutes. A voice can make it or break it. I don't think I am alone in that thinking either (this is has been discussed in prior threads). Maybe I'm just lucky, but I've never been on a date with a women that had a hideous voice. And I've never done phone calls before meeting.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I've noticed when I start exchanging messages with a guy, he proposes talking on the phone as the next step before meeting. What is the point of this? You cannot detect chemistry over the phone. Anyone else feel like this is a waste of time? I think I'd rather just meet at a casual place. I truly think this "chemistry" thing is sometimes concocted and too often situational. I understand that there is something about the other person that is attractive, but I know too many people create chemistry for the most subjective reasons. Now, after saying that, speaking to someone over the phone, for me, is very important. Yes, the voice can be a minor turn off or on, but the conversation truly sheds light on the persons ability to communicate (obviously), intelligence, and whether all those texts/emails were really her. The to and fro, the flow of conversation over the phone can be as revealing as the conversation in person.
katiegrl Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 (edited) Maybe I'm just lucky, but I've never been on a date with a women that had a hideous voice. And I've never done phone calls before meeting. It's not just the sound of his voice.... this is gonna sound very weird to some and maybe I am weird, but it's the energy that generates from his voice... and my voice. I can feel that energy... but like I said, I am VERY weird. Funny thing is I am not even into all that new age metaphysical stuff.... but I can feel that energy. If it's there. It's happened that way for me many times.... even via texting on a few occasions (much more rare however), so I know it's true. For me anyway. Yeah weird. Edited July 20, 2016 by katiegrl 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I can feel that energy... but like I said, I am VERY weird. Funny thing is I am not even into all that new age metaphysical stuff.... but I can feel that energy. If it's there. It's happened that way for me many times.... even via texting, so I know it's true. For me anyway. Yeah weird. Not weird at all. I have been told on many occasions that my texts and clearly over the phone, my voice/personalities exudes energy, enthusiasm. Some of us, or most of us, like to hear from people who are enthusiastic, lively and that can be refreshingly addicting and captivating. 1
katiegrl Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Not weird at all. I have been told on many occasions that my texts and clearly over the phone, my voice/personalities exudes energy, enthusiasm. Some of us, or most of us, like to hear from people who are enthusiastic, lively and that can be refreshingly addicting and captivating. Yeah I have been told the same... but somehow I think it's more than that... although I have yet to figure it out!
Vado Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I've noticed when I start exchanging messages with a guy, he proposes talking on the phone as the next step before meeting. What is the point of this? You cannot detect chemistry over the phone. Anyone else feel like this is a waste of time? I think I'd rather just meet at a casual place. Maybe he got experiences with flakes 1
hippychick3 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Oh, a phone conversation can tell you a LOT! I've reconsidered going on dates after a bad phone convo. I'm very turned on or turned off by a man's voice and his ability or lack of ability to carry a conversation. Current bf has the sexiest and manliest voice. It made my anticipation for our first date even better. 1
phineas Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 He wants to see how dedicated you are, and also wants to see how you react to a conversation. He is probably tired of first dates not going anywhere. This. If she can't hold a conversation over the phone then how can she do it in person? Also, if she has a universe of orbiters she won't be able to not talk about them on the phone and there are a bunch of other things you can pick up on when you talk over the phone. Oh and if she can't talk on the phone at night she probably is living with a man. 1
Bialy Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 You can learn A LOT from a person by speaking over the phone. For one, it shows you if the person can hold a conversation. 1
LoveIsMyReligion Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I've noticed when I start exchanging messages with a guy, he proposes talking on the phone as the next step before meeting. What is the point of this? You cannot detect chemistry over the phone. Anyone else feel like this is a waste of time? I think I'd rather just meet at a casual place. You are correct, it is a waste of time.
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