Ideas for Keeping Long Distance Relationships Strong...

[javaespressons]

Alright- this is a community thread for everyone to please get in on. The question is this: What do you do to kep your long-distance relationship strong?

 

Do you send lots of text messages, care packages, midnight rendezvous' whenever possible, journal trading, pic-nicing, anything. We all have creative and original ideas and sall things that we do to keep our relationships storng through the long distances, so tell us yours. I'm sure we could all use some great ideas.

[javaespressons]

1. This is a new one, that starts this week. This weekend we bought a journal, ours was fancy and had the quote from I Corinthians 4:4-8 (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy....). On the cover page we wrote the date that we started it, out names, and listed several sigificant dates that have impacted us over our 4 years of friendship and 2 years of relatonship. Now that this is set up, we are each taking the journal for a week and writing an entry. Every Friday, we are taking the journal to the post office and mailing it with plans for it to arrive by Monday. We keep trading off, writing entries about whatever we like, then mailing it for the other to readand write their own entry. I am getting the journal on Monday and am super excited!

 

2. I think nearly every long-distance couple has experienced a care package. These simple things can do more for a relationship then I ever imagined. My girlfriend made this idea extra-interesting my making several of hers packages of the senses. She included my favorite chocolate for taste, a CD that I'd been wanting for sound, a tank-top with her perfume on it for smell, several pictures of us for sight, and a soft stuffed-animal that had her nickname for touch. She also threw in a really nice letter.

 

2a. This is a care-package idea that I created. I made a simple package with several things I thought she would like. Then I took about 15 pages of paper that I printed "I Love You" and "Good Luck on Exams" in very small letters. (It was exmas week at our colleges) I then cut the small pieces of paper to make confetti that I used as filler in the box, and hid in the card. Well, the confetti went everywhere, but she Loved it!

 

3. We are a little closer than many couples, only about 2 hours away. We have made it a point to meet in the middle of the night on several occasions. Our meetings may include a very late dinner, a picnic, or just sitting on the grass or in one of our cars talking. These meetings have done wonders for us, this is however dependent on your locations and how close you are to each other.

 

 

So what about everyone else... what little or big things do you all do to keep your LD relationship strong and fun???

[lvgrl]

Well, I think open communication is the key to a LDR.. When you start to loose communication you start to loose it all. Lets say the person you are with is beyond a reasonable driving distance to commute to everyday, so what do you rely on to talk to that person? The phone..

 

If the phone is all that you have, take advantage of it..Because you cant be there to wake up to that person everyday or see them when you get off work, all you can do is talk. And that is what you should do..

 

Send a care package with personal items in it, like for women, send a pair of your panties with a sexy little letter telling him exactly what it is you miss about his body. Its just little stuff like that, that keeps the passion there without being able to touch that person. Or men, just send her flowers to work, or call her and leave a really sweet voicemail, just do something to let the person know that you care and you are thinking of them. Little things like that keep a LDR going..

[lvgrl]

Well, I think open communication is the key to a LDR.. When you start to loose communication you start to loose it all. Lets say the person you are with is beyond a reasonable driving distance to commute to everyday, so what do you rely on to talk to that person? The phone..

 

If the phone is all that you have, take advantage of it..Because you cant be there to wake up to that person everyday or see them when you get off work, all you can do is talk. And that is what you should do..

 

Send a care package with personal items in it, like for women, send a pair of your panties with a sexy little letter telling him exactly what it is you miss about his body. Its just little stuff like that, that keeps the passion there without being able to touch that person. Or men, just send her flowers to work, or call her and leave a really sweet voicemail, just do something to let the person know that you care and you are thinking of them. Little things like that keep a LDR going..

[lvgrl]

Well, I think open communication is the key to a LDR.. When you start to loose communication you start to loose it all. Lets say the person you are with is beyond a reasonable driving distance to commute to everyday, so what do you rely on to talk to that person? The phone..

 

If the phone is all that you have, take advantage of it..Because you cant be there to wake up to that person everyday or see them when you get off work, all you can do is talk. And that is what you should do..

 

Send a care package with personal items in it, like for women, send a pair of your panties with a sexy little letter telling him exactly what it is you miss about his body. Its just little stuff like that, that keeps the passion there without being able to touch that person. Or men, just send her flowers to work, or call her and leave a really sweet voicemail, just do something to let the person know that you care and you are thinking of them. Little things like that keep a LDR going..

[Syncerity]

awww...yea i actually did some of those things as well java...i did the sweet stuff while the dude jus lapped it up...he didnt even return my journal entries...well he wrote me a poem, and thats it...that sour face...he wanted me to do all the work ...but yea i have buddos that i love dearly that are in the army, and i send them carepackages at least once a month...with a different theme...one month might be movie night where i send them dvds of genres that they like (one loves boxing, and one loves will ferrel movies) so ill send them movies and popcorn with favorite movie candy and a picture of me sitting on the couch with popcorn stuck to my face so they can place it beside them and its like we are watchin it together..or one month ill send them a guinea pig package, where its just a box of my cooking creations (tryna work on my cooking skills so i let my babies taste all my goodies i make)....

 

make a scrapbook together that keeps the passion goin too...

[westernxer]

I have an idea...

 

Move closer.

[javaespressons]

I like the scrap book idea... great! I think photo albums help too, especially when done together....

 

As for your idea westernxer, I like that one too. I also plan to do it, just not right now... gotta finished University first-

[Syncerity]

oh yea...get them a gift card to their favorite store and tell them to get something nice for themselves...hopefully he'll get some sexy giraffe boxers so you both can enjoy

[westernxer]

Originally posted by Syncerity

oh yea...get them a gift card to their favorite store and tell them to get something nice for themselves...hopefully he'll get some sexy giraffe boxers so you both can enjoy

 

 

Will the giraffe's "neck" pop out when you touch it?

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Originally posted by westernxer

Will the giraffe's "neck" pop out when you touch it?

 

You are such a guy! But I like it!!

 

I'm in a LDR. But we don't do any corny stuff like journals. We make sure we see each other EVERY weekend. We switch off. This weekend is his turn to come see me. Now keep in mind he;s only 2 hours away so its easier. I didn't really read your post so I'm not sure how far away you two are. But I think the main thing is TRUST TRUST TRUST....with out that.....theree's no point in ANY relationship

[westernxer]

Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

You are such a guy! But I like it!!

 

Real guys have the ability to associate anything with a phallic symbol, minus flowers, of course.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Originally posted by westernxer

Real guys have the ability to associate anything with a phallic symbol, minus flowers, of course.

 

Even a Tampon?

[westernxer]

Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

Even a Tampon?

 

As long as javaesp doesn't send one to her guy.

[javaespressons]

Just as a note- I'm a guy, and my girl would probabaly like it if I send one to her. She'd be amuzed at the least.

 

As to your comment noclue, trust is a very important thing. But the point of this thread was not to point out what relationships need, but to share ideas for what you do to keep your relationship strong. You mentioned each switching back driving to see the other, but what else do you do?

 

As for me, My girlfriend lives about 2 hours away. One of the main obstacles is that we both work (she in childcare, and me in Business Consulting) and also both take classes all year. We actualy each drove an hour last night to meet for a late dinner...

[westernxer]

Originally posted by javaespressons

Just as a note- I'm a guy, and my girl would probabaly like it if I send one to her. She'd be amuzed at the least.

 

Oops... I feel like an idiot.