Kics Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I started dating this guy almost a month ago. Things were going great and I really liked him. We hang out in our lunch breaks and after work. He always texts me in the morning and when we are not together. He says he misses me and wants to marry me already. The thing is I really liked him, but right now I'm not sure that I am as crazy for him as he is for me. He is like my actually first boyfriend too, and I want to give it a better go. Any advice? Should I spend less time with him?
Zippy2000 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 (edited) I started dating this guy almost a month ago. Things were going great and I really liked him. We hang out in our lunch breaks and after work. He always texts me in the morning and when we are not together. He says he misses me and wants to marry me already. The thing is I really liked him, but right now I'm not sure that I am as crazy for him as he is for me. He is like my actually first boyfriend too, and I want to give it a better go. Any advice? Should I spend less time with him? Its your first boyfriend. Its understandable you may think there either there isnt a future or there is someone else better. You dont know as this is your first boyfriend. Date others if you need to. Im 42 years old and have dated lots of girls. I look back at those who treated me right and no mind games. Give it time and keep on dating him to find out more about him and what you feel. That is what dating is all about. Edited July 20, 2016 by Zippy2000
Redhead14 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I started dating this guy almost a month ago. Things were going great and I really liked him. We hang out in our lunch breaks and after work. He always texts me in the morning and when we are not together. He says he misses me and wants to marry me already. The thing is I really liked him, but right now I'm not sure that I am as crazy for him as he is for me. He is like my actually first boyfriend too, and I want to give it a better go. Any advice? Should I spend less time with him? Any many who tells you he wants to marry you after only one month of dating, is moving way too fast and likely blowing smoke up your skirt in order to keep you on the string. When they start off that hot, this fast, they burn out just as quickly. Sit back and let him lead for a while now. Don't initiate dates or spending time with him. Let him do that. If he's inconsistent, not keeping in good touch, calling last minute to see you, etc. You probably should move on. And, just because you are dating for a month, doesn't mean you are his girlfriend. It's a good idea at some point in a new dating scenario to have a casual conversation about overall dating goals. You make a statement to simply say what you are looking for for yourself not necessarily with him yet, because it's too soon to make that determination, just what your goal is. If you are looking for a long-term boyfriend and he's just wanting to date casually and see other people, etc. you aren't on the same page to start with. Opening that conversation won't scare him away if he's mature enough to realize that he is dating a strong, secure woman who knows what she wants and doesn't want to waste anyone's time or allow herself to be strung along. What has the dating history to date been? Are you going out on public dates? Did you have sex with him early on? Do you only hang out at his place or yours and just have sex every time? I am not sure I am as crazy for him as he is for me[/b -- That's because you shouldn't be. Dating is a process of evaluation. And, I don't think he's necessarily crazy for you, at least, yet, he's crazy for sex Let this play out and observe.
Author Kics Posted July 20, 2016 Author Posted July 20, 2016 We haven't had sex, because I am never been with a guy before. I told him I wanted to wait till I was ready. He said he would wait till I was ready, he hasn't pressure me or anything. We spend time at his house hang out with his family. He has taken me out on dates and he mostly always pays. He is a gentleman and he is very honest with me. I just miss the feeling when we first met, I'm scared that I won't love him.
smackie9 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 We haven't had sex, because I am never been with a guy before. I told him I wanted to wait till I was ready. He said he would wait till I was ready, he hasn't pressure me or anything. We spend time at his house hang out with his family. He has taken me out on dates and he mostly always pays. He is a gentleman and he is very honest with me. I just miss the feeling when we first met, I'm scared that I won't love him. Well chalk it up to being nervous, or your gut feeling there isn't enough chemistry. Just because he is the first to date you doesn't mean it must somehow bloom into a forever romance. Take your time, and if it doesn't really feel right then he isn't the one. Don't jump at the first guy that gives you attention*
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