My ex dumped, but told me she is still in love with me! Help.....PLS!!!

[HIPPYCHICK]

Hey guys,

 

Some of you might of read some of my posts...

 

In brief, my gf cheated on me, we split for 6wks, got back together 4 5wks, then split for good, she tells me she's in love with this women she cheated on me with, who is older to be her mum and had 4kids.

 

Well anyway, we split 2mths ago nearly, we meet up for a chat and just to say goodbye as Ive told her I don't want her in my life now, I just can't its too painfull as I still have deep feelings for her. So anyway we talked and talked and she told me she still loves me and that im still in her heart etc...but she loves this other women!!!

 

She said that im the only person her truely understands her and gets wat she is all about and without me in her life there wil be a massive massive part missing, she begged me not to do it, but she left me with no option she cheated end off. I trusted her and she let me down... I can't stil be friends with her, when im stil in love with her..

 

Anyway her new gf, broke up with her within 3wks, amnd she begged for her back like the fool she is! This women my ex is with is just using her and playing games, but she can't see it....

 

Now my ex is playing games, she flirted with me that night we meet up, I caught her statring at me all the time, shr had to touch me. I stil have some stuff at her place, told her I want them ASAP, she wanted to drop them round my place I said no.

 

Im seeing someone else now, but im still in love with my ex...

 

What shall I do..please help me!

[Merin]

Stop talking to her, and stop seeing her.

 

She is still with this other person, you've already decided that remaining just friends isn't an option for you because of how you feel.. so cut contact.

[HIPPYCHICK]

I hear what your saying, but its not that easy just cutting some one you love out of your life. I know I need to do that and I am! But when you know that the relationship your ex is in isn't going to work for ****..you can't help but wonder. Im ova her, but still madly in love with her and always will be...no matter who im with!!

 

So what kind of slow motion we talking about?

 

Talk dirty to me, you know you want to.....

[Merin]

Originally posted by HIPPYCHICK

 

 

So what kind of slow motion we talking about?

 

Talk dirty to me, you know you want to.....

 

 

Ask yourself this... is it easier to NC someone's lame ass when they're not giving anything at all or is it better to keep contact with every meeting and/or conversation hurting more than the last...

 

I know it isn't easy.. but sometimes people need a break in the habit or addiction if you will to feel the presense of someone no longer there in order to miss it...

 

Good Luck

[Cwazydude]

I agree, No-contact (After you get your stuff) would be the best.

 

This woman DID break your heart after all, and she still is. Just close that page of your life and begin anew.

[scared shy]

So you mentioned you trusted her and she let you down. Do you trust her...

if yes then IMO I see no reason why you should, but if you do then wait in the sidelines and prepare for the worst because she hurt you once and is liable to do it again. If you don't trust her, then there is nothing more to say, tell her to take a long hike to Siberia or something. I know it's way hard to let go of someone you love, but you are the only one with you 24/7, so shouldn't you be the most important person to you?

[HIPPYCHICK]

In ans to your question, right now I don't trust her, and to be honest im not sure If I ever could...its really hard!

 

My stuff can stay round her house, its stuff I can replace so im cool. Im not going to speak to her if I see or contact her. that chapter of my life is well and truly closed now!

 

Thanks for your advice peeps, much apricated...

[Zaira]

You need to cut all contact so she doesn't keep hurting you. And I don't think you should have started seeing someone else whilst you're still going through that, because you'll probably hurt them just the same.

[LucreziaBorgia]

No new contacts = No new hurts

[HIPPYCHICK]

Im not going to see her, don't worry peeps....to me she doesn't exist anymore!

 

Zaira,

 

I can assure the last thing I need right now is to be romatically involved with any one, but It just kinda happen and well Im just going with the flow. The Girl im with nows the score she knows Ive just cum out of a relationship ect etc... Ive told her I can't promise her anythink, its not a full on serious comitted relationship, were just kinda seeing each other having fun, sex etc...but yes I do understand what your saying. My head is very screwed up at the moment and last thing I want to do, is do that some one else.

 

I guess I need to sit down and talk to this women that im seeing, as I think she feels more for me than I do for her.