Morphee331 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up not so long ago. I still love him and there is a chance we may rekindle things once he gets home From the military but for now we knew for the sake Of our friendship we had to End things. We are on good terms even though we rarely talk. Well I ve been talking to guy and going on dates. I ve made it clear to them all that I don t want a relationship with them. However I can t help but feel guilty. There has never been a time where I wasn't in a relationship from the time I was a preteen all the way until my early 20s and I think now is the time where I focus on me. I know this break up was for the best. We both agree that it was but how do I get past feeling like a whore for even talking to another guy that s not him?
bummer Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 How long ago? Only YOU can make YOU feel like a whore. If you feel guilty, don't do it. Just because you've never been alone before doesn't mean you can't try it now. When you're bored and want attention, read a book, start a hobby, call an old friend, or chat with grandpa Joe who's more lonely than you. Or just try not to judge yourself. If you're honest, and the break up was mutual, go have fun so you don't have regrets when you rekindle your love. Also, get comfy compartmentalizing your life now so you don't slip and tell him what you're up to. He doesn't want to know. 1
Author Morphee331 Posted July 20, 2016 Author Posted July 20, 2016 I think it's Maybe because I'm not use to this. I'm so use to being faithful and talking to one guy and one guy only. But I am happy. And I do feel free. I know I NEEDED this. I just have to get out of that negative mindset that I have sometimes
Sunkissedpatio Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Why do you feel like a "whore" for talking to other guys or being interested in others? Is it what you think your ex will think of you if he finds out or is it what you think of yourself for moving on so quickly? Taking time to yourself right now isn't about being a whore or not (labels such as those are a great disservice to you so don't use prejorative terms like that on yourself) But the idea you are feeling something isn't right for moving on maybe is a sign to you that you are not ready to move on just yet. What you should be doing is questioning why you are in such a hurry to have the companionship of a new man when you are barely getting out of another relationship. You said yourself you've had no space between rels. for many years. It won't hurt you to ride it out alone for a while, especially if you feel there may be a chance to rekindle things with your ex down the line. If he finds out you started dating someone right away you may have to kiss that option goodbye. Because what did that relationship mean to you if you can so quickly move on to someone new days after that finished? Now if you feel ready to move on then there is no reason why you shouldn't if that is what you want and feel. But besides that, being alone after a relationship is a good thing. You may want to rediscover yourself again and find out what makes you happy on your own terms. 1
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