Romaks Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Around a month ago, I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 2 years (we are both 22). I made the choice to break it, since I had been wanting to do so for a long time. I can't say a single bad thing about her, and frankly, I was very lucky to have been able to date her. Something in my mind had been telling me to end it for a long time, and it made it very difficult for me to invest in the relationship any longer, so I just felt that it had ran its course. I just wanted my freedom. Now that I have the "freedom", I have no idea what to do with it. I expected a dramatic change in my life, but instead of that, there's just a sense of loneliness with a hint of regret. I tend to romanticize things, but I do realize that we are not right for each other at this time in our lives. I have been seeing a number of girls, and I can't help but compare them all to my ex. Each time I meet someone new or go out on I date, I can't help but think how these girls simply don't match up to my ex. My self-esteem takes a hit every time, and it makes me truly doubt my decision even though I know it was the right one. What is has your experiences post break up been like? What can I do to move on from this? 1
JewelD Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Well, it's only been a month, so you shouldn't expect to be over it this soon. Sounds like it might be too soon for you to start dating. Personally, I don't rebound because it's a waste of that person's time and it's probably not going to make you feel better anyway. Focus on yourself and being single. I didn't start talking to new people until 3months post BU and it was a disaster. Then I stopped for about a year. Use that time alone to enjoy your own company, hang out with friends, focus on self improvement. You gotta have other things going on in your life other than dating. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Stop dating until your finally over this. Your not giving the other girls you date a chance because your comparing so back off for a while, clear your head, then get back in the dating game. 4
DevotedBaker54 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 I'm sorry you are doubting your decision to break up with your girlfriend. It's hard being alone after being used to having someone to talk to all the time. I would just be alone until you are comfortable with yourself and you feel like you're whole on your own. You don't need a person to fill your time (even though it's really nice!). You'll find someone who makes you forget about your ex, but until then keep your head up and don't doubt yourself 1
Author Romaks Posted July 25, 2016 Author Posted July 25, 2016 I'm sorry you are doubting your decision to break up with your girlfriend. It's hard being alone after being used to having someone to talk to all the time. I would just be alone until you are comfortable with yourself and you feel like you're whole on your own. You don't need a person to fill your time (even though it's really nice!). You'll find someone who makes you forget about your ex, but until then keep your head up and don't doubt yourself Thank you, that's exactly what I needed to hear from you in this moment of weakness. 1
Satu Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 You're not ready for dating. Its too soon. Do something else with your time for a while, and then consider dating. Take care.
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