anduina Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Relationships exhaust me. They take a lot of work and energy. Does anyone else feel this way? 1
SevenCity Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Bad ones yes, good ones no. I get a burst of energy from a good RL. 3
basil67 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Agree with SevenCity. A good relationship is mostly comfortable and easy. If your relationship exhausts you, then it's not the right relationship. 2
Author anduina Posted July 20, 2016 Author Posted July 20, 2016 As an introvert in academia, even good relationships are draining. I need a lot of alone time, something relationship partners don't understand. 2
Author anduina Posted July 20, 2016 Author Posted July 20, 2016 That's fair if construed as a generalization that spans a large sample size. But it wasn't. It was only intended to generalize about my relationships. 1
basil67 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Interesting. As a fellow introvert, I find that being with my partner counts as downtime because I can completely be myself. Even though we are at home at the same time, we're not in each other's pockets. Do you get time to do your own thing when your partner is there?
preraph Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Some people can have balanced easy-going relationship. For others and for various reasons, pursuing a relationship can be a roller-coaster in which you lose perspective and do irrational things. I have always been one of those people who was reluctant to quit jobs, just kept trying to make it work, and I can tell you that that approach to continuing to go after men who weren't trying at all or at least not as much as me was a losing proposition. It's exhausting and lots of down times to get a little up time. I can't say how to stop doing it because it's my weakness too. But try to know when to fold 'em and walk away and not waste as much time as I did.
Redhead14 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Relationships exhaust me. They take a lot of work and energy. Does anyone else feel this way? If a relationship is exhausting you and sucking the life out of you, it's a bad relationship, plain and simple. Sure, there may be hurdles, ups and downs, but they should be passing events that are handled as a couple and in a balanced way so as to not drag either of you down. Relationships on the whole, should be pretty easy. If you're feeling this way, it's time to step back and do some evaluating . . .
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