sober and dry Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 I got out of my last RS, of 8 years where I was betrayed, about 1 and a half years ago and started dating a work colleague who also got out of her last RS a year ago where she was also betrayed. I just want to get some opinions on this. There are a lot about her that I like, naturally But I sense some possible problems on this RS. -She is much younger than me, I'm 27 and she 19 :\ even though she doesn't come across as a teenager, instead she seems to have a maturity of a 24 or something like that, sometimes I fear the simple fact of her age... What you think about that? -She swears a lot and that sometimes bothers me... I will talk with her about this when I feel it's right, but I fear that this can become a deal break since I feel this is part of her personality... - We both compared each other with our exs one time, right in the beginning of the RS, does it's a bad start? In all truth I compare her with my ex in my thoughts sometimes, but I instantly know that's just non-sense since she is clearly not my ex. Some days I worry a lot about this topics, other days I just think "well all of this can change and become clear. In truth we start seriously dating just 15 day ago or so, but I guess my previous experiences or whatever led me straight to the possible problems right away... One thing I realized insntantly, I don't know how to date anymore
Bialy Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 All of this sounds negative. Is there any GOOD in this potential relationship? Are you dating her because she's just available and there... OR are you dating her because you sense a connection beyond griping about exes?
Author sober and dry Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Yeap you are right, I just talked about the negative stuff... Of course there is, we get along very well and have the normal good things of a RS. Best of all we understand each other very well! For instance we talked about the fact of we both gripping about our exes and it worked. She still swears a little more than what I would like but it's getting lesser with time, I think she picked up from my behavior
BaileyB Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 The fact that you have bonded over the fact that you have both been betrayed and hurt by your ex's is not a solid foundation for a new relationship;). I would hope that you have more in common than that... The swearing wouldn't bother me at all - it is a choice she is making, and if you tell her that it bothers you, she should respect your wishes and stop. People do it all the time - they know it's appropriate to swear at home but not at work or in church. She can easily change that behavior - if she chooses to do so.
Author sober and dry Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 We didn't, in truth we just shared that fact after we started dating. Of course we have a lot more in common... Well she swears a lot, with almost anyone and almost everywhere. In my way of seeing, there are times and places where swearing kind of ruins it... And I don't know how to speak about it, since it just seems that it's her way.
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