Lansing Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 This one hot girl I dated actually said to me "Aren't you going to comment on my outfit?" When we went out to lunch the first time because I kept my mouth shut. I did great with her until I finally relented and thought I could open up (HUGE mistake). I had something like this happen with a girl a few years ago. I felt like she was always fishing for compliments and I wasn't sure if she just wanted someone to compliment her or if she actually wanted ME to be her bf. It made me very hesitant around her and ended in her thinking I wasn't interested in her.
biker23 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 So about all of 30 minutes ago I was texting my girlfriend of 3 months. She was with a friend and posted a picture on her snapchat story. I thought she looked amazing so I texted her saying something like "wow I just saw your story, you look amazing, you're beautiful blah blah blah" and she responded to something I asked earlier first and then she said thank you. She normally doesn't like compliments because she thinks their fake from most people but with me she knows I'm honest and I always like to reassure her, SO I sent her one more text saying "but seriously I had to watch your story a second time because I was like (then I put a few emojis showing that I was breathless)"// this is where things got confusing to me. She responded with "omg stoppppp haha" and then went on to ask me about last night, so I thought all was good. But then about 5 minutes later I'm scrolling through my snapchat stories and I notice that she deleted hers?? I was so confused at first but now I feel like I may of creeped her out. I mean I don't think I did anything wrong, I was just telling my girlfriend she was beautiful, but why else would she delete her story right after I said that? Do y'all think what I said was creepy? Btw I haven't heard from her since. I dont think this is creepy. and I would reserve judgement from some on here that either are older or arent social media comfortable. I dont know your age, but Snapchat is purely for attention and I know most that use it regularly like to keep track of how many views they get on their stories. I would also be careful assuming your texts had anything to do with her deleting. There could be many reasons, so dont jump to yours. I have no idea why a BF of many months would creep her out let alone cause her to delete the story. She knows she looked good. I move more to the you havent heard from her since but given it was in your original note, that was only 30 mins later. So has the communication moved back to normal? In hindsight, I would reserve the compliments to truly outstanding reasons and not dwell on it. Your point was made with your first one. Sweet of you to share but then cut it. and she cant look amazing in every outfit or every night...she can, but come on you know she looks better sometimes than others, so dont diminish it. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 OP, I couldn't read your post without cringing. I agree with your gf, I think these kind of compliments are at best OTT and at worst fake. And if she is someone who doesn't really like compliments, I can see why it would make her cringe too. Don't bring it up. It's done. Its not a huge deal. Just take her down from the pedestal. From now on, keep the gushyness down. No harm giving the odd genuine compliment, especially if she earns it, and it's not just about her appearance. Sorry Joseb, I couldn't disagree more. She's on SNAPCHAT for heaven's sake. Anyone parading their life on social media, and Snapchat especially are there for attention and compliments and views and likes and whatever the hell else they do on there. And if you or anyone believes otherwise and that she doesn't enjoy compliments then I have a bridge to sell you As for the OP and complimenting his GIRLFRIEND, they're still in the honeymoon phase of their relationship so telling her how lovely she is isn't creepy or over the top or putting anyone on a pedestal. I've seen this many times. When someone is that obsessed with social media they often prefer to appear available so as to attract as much attention as possible. The fact that she deleted his posts, someone she is supposedly dating and in a relationship just proves my point. Does that mean she's a horrible person? No but it does reveal a bit about her overall character though so tread carefully.
Lansing Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 The fact that she deleted his posts, someone she is supposedly dating and in a relationship just proves my point. Can OP clarify this as a bunch of posters here are saying something similar about deleting OP posts..... In the OP it said that he texted her. Did he actually post a message to her on Snapchat? (i don't use snapchat so don't know if it is like IG where you can make public comments). It sounds to me like he said her a private message via text that wasn't associated with Snapchat but maybe I misunderstand how Snapchat works or what OP said. I don't think she deleted her Snapchat because there was a comment from some guy (OP) on it. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Can OP clarify this as a bunch of posters here are saying something similar about deleting OP posts..... In the OP it said that he texted her. Did he actually post a message to her on Snapchat? (i don't use snapchat so don't know if it is like IG where you can make public comments). It sounds to me like he said her a private message via text that wasn't associated with Snapchat but maybe I misunderstand how Snapchat works or what OP said. I don't think she deleted her Snapchat because there was a comment from some guy (OP) on it. Yes you're right actually. It was through text and then she deleted whatever pics that prompted his compliments. Regardless, I still stand by my statement about her seeking attention and compliments otherwise why be on Snapchat????
VeveCakes Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Sorry but this doesn't make any sense to me at all. Anyone posting their life on social media for the whole world to see is SEEKING ATTENTION!! Plain and simple. She doesn't like compliments my a**. The fact that she removed her own boyfriend's comments on her snapchat is a red flag to me and should be for you too. The issue isn't you being creepy but rather why she feels the need to erase any sign of you online. Think about it. Just to clarify - you can not comment on Snapchat. You can message someone from their post but other people can not see the message. You can see who viewed your own snaps. Maybe someone looks at hers and sees whose viewing it. Who knows. It's definitely strange she deleted it after and it's not your doing OP. 1
biker23 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Can OP clarify this as a bunch of posters here are saying something similar about deleting OP posts..... In the OP it said that he texted her. Did he actually post a message to her on Snapchat? (i don't use snapchat so don't know if it is like IG where you can make public comments). It sounds to me like he said her a private message via text that wasn't associated with Snapchat but maybe I misunderstand how Snapchat works or what OP said. I don't think she deleted her Snapchat because there was a comment from some guy (OP) on it. I was just going to post this. Snapchat is ONE way...you cannot comment on someones story. You can privately chat directly, but not publicly. So she deleted her public story, not his comments. Big difference.
OnlyHonesty Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I am a woman, and this is simply not true. Most normal and rational woman would love a message like that from their crush/boyfriend/husband. OP, ignore the above commentary, unless the poster meant it in jest. Your comments weren't creepy at all; they were very nice and most girls would be flattered. That isn't the reason she deleted them. However, VeveCakes might be on to something - perhaps she doesn't want someone else seeing them. Women spend quite a bit of time making statements like the ones you just made...and then their actions communicate the complete opposite. 1
Author Steveirwin Posted July 20, 2016 Author Posted July 20, 2016 I dont think this is creepy. and I would reserve judgement from some on here that either are older or arent social media comfortable. I dont know your age, but Snapchat is purely for attention and I know most that use it regularly like to keep track of how many views they get on their stories. I would also be careful assuming your texts had anything to do with her deleting. There could be many reasons, so dont jump to yours. I have no idea why a BF of many months would creep her out let alone cause her to delete the story. She knows she looked good. I move more to the you havent heard from her since but given it was in your original note, that was only 30 mins later. So has the communication moved back to normal? In hindsight, I would reserve the compliments to truly outstanding reasons and not dwell on it. Your point was made with your first one. Sweet of you to share but then cut it. and she cant look amazing in every outfit or every night...she can, but come on you know she looks better sometimes than others, so dont diminish it. Last paragraph... Realist thing I've heard, this post is what I was looking for. Everyone has given advice to think about but this post (mainly the last two sentences) is so true. I appreciate it brotha
LookAtThisPOst Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Women spend quite a bit of time making statements like the ones you just made...and then their actions communicate the complete opposite. There's always a risk to appear "creepy" to other single ladies as a single man. I gave up trying to worry about that a while ago.
SoThatHappened Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I gave up trying to worry about that a while ago. ^^^ and that's when you end up no longer being single. Which, just proves my whole point on this thread. Most women don't want what the OP was giving, even though they say that's what they want. Granted Mr. irwin was a little over the top, but the theory has proven true in my experience more often than not. On the bright side, it sounds like he's learned something from this. Steveirwin, please let us know how it all turns out.
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