smackie9 Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Okay so I guess I didn't tell the full story and I'm sorry about that! I know I'm dumb for this and I shouldn't have stayed but, after we started dating I realized we didn't have any chemisty, we just had sexual chemistry. So I told her we should just be friends, but then she made me feel guilty by claiming I took her virginity and said "I'm glad u got what u wanted and ur just gonna leave now, it's great the guy who took my virginity wants nothing to do with me now!" I just feel dumb after dating her for this many months to find out that she lied about that stuff! Zowie she's bat s&*% crazy, you are better off dodging that bullet. In a way I guess she thinks the only way to get and keep a guy it to claim to be untouched. Weirdo.
joseb Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Zowie she's bat s&*% crazy, you are better off dodging that bullet. In a way I guess she thinks the only way to get and keep a guy it to claim to be untouched. Weirdo. Yeah OP, that info is pretty relevant. Lol She's crazy. End of story.
basil67 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Okay so I guess I didn't tell the full story and I'm sorry about that! I know I'm dumb for this and I shouldn't have stayed but, after we started dating I realized we didn't have any chemisty, we just had sexual chemistry. So I told her we should just be friends, but then she made me feel guilty by claiming I took her virginity and said "I'm glad u got what u wanted and ur just gonna leave now, it's great the guy who took my virginity wants nothing to do with me now!" I just feel dumb after dating her for this many months to find out that she lied about that stuff! Yep, that's crazy. But how does this work in with you asking her multiple times if she was a virgin?
Poutrew Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 When I was your age I had slept with around 50 guys apparently... God alone knows who they were supposed to be because I still to this day don't! Well, now you know what you were doing all those times you were sleep walking..." :lmao: 1
Author Kaylub1997 Posted July 20, 2016 Author Posted July 20, 2016 Yep, that's crazy. But how does this work in with you asking her multiple times if she was a virgin? Well there honestly were A LOT of red flags that popped up telling me she wasn't a virgin. 1st: Having 5 boyfriends all together from freshman yr through senior year(not including me). 2nd: She had a pair of pants that had a hole in the butt which showed skin and I realized she was already wearing thongs way before we ever had sex. 3: All the escalations in the intense make outs before we ever had sex were pretty much second nature to her. 4: Her boyfriend who she broke up with for me was in college. 5: She told me a weird story of how her bf from sophomore year tried having sex with her and had put the condom on but she stopped him at the last moment... Which would mean why would she not go that's at with her next bc who she dated for a year and a month..? I just couldn't believe that ****! Honestly I didn't always just blatantly ask her if she was a virgin, I would fraise it as "you can't be a virgin" I didn't want to make it sound important at all. I would then list all the fact of why and how she couldn't be.
Dis Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 Well there honestly were A LOT of red flags that popped up telling me she wasn't a virgin. 1st: Having 5 boyfriends all together from freshman yr through senior year(not including me). 2nd: She had a pair of pants that had a hole in the butt which showed skin and I realized she was already wearing thongs way before we ever had sex. 3: All the escalations in the intense make outs before we ever had sex were pretty much second nature to her. 4: Her boyfriend who she broke up with for me was in college. 5: She told me a weird story of how her bf from sophomore year tried having sex with her and had put the condom on but she stopped him at the last moment... Which would mean why would she not go that's at with her next bc who she dated for a year and a month..? I just couldn't believe that ****! Honestly I didn't always just blatantly ask her if she was a virgin, I would fraise it as "you can't be a virgin" I didn't want to make it sound important at all. I would then list all the fact of why and how she couldn't be. The bolded sentences are very naive hun...and alittle insulting. So a woman cant be a virgin because she wears thongs and knows a thing or two about making out??? I think you valued her because of her claim to be a virgin...not because of anything else No wonder she lied to you (not condoning it) but I'm guessing she sensed the high value you placed on her virginity. Your above post is riddled with it. Dont get me wrong, her response to you breaking up with her was pretty loopy....it shouldve been over right there Stop denying that perhaps the only reason you were into her was because you were infatuated with the idea of taking her virginity...and admit your turned off because you found out the truth..not because she lied
Author Kaylub1997 Posted July 20, 2016 Author Posted July 20, 2016 The bolded sentences are very naive hun...and alittle insulting. So a woman cant be a virgin because she wears thongs and knows a thing or two about making out??? I think you valued her because of her claim to be a virgin...not because of anything else No wonder she lied to you (not condoning it) but I'm guessing she sensed the high value you placed on her virginity. Your above post is riddled with it. Dont get me wrong, her response to you breaking up with her was pretty loopy....it shouldve been over right there Stop denying that perhaps the only reason you were into her was because you were infatuated with the idea of taking her virginity...and admit your turned off because you found out the truth..not because she lied I don't understand the point of u even commenting on this if all ur going to do is rephrase what everyone else is saying... "U only valued her because she was a virgin" hell no I didn't i told her straight up that I had slept 5 other girls, and that virginity meant nothing to me. I might be young but I am an adult, I would rather have a girl who is experienced rather than dealing with someone inexperienced+ a mess to clean up. So please stop telling me what the **** you think I am valuing and not valuing! I was giving a response to why I asked her so many times about her virginity. I am turned off by the way she lied to me, I even told her I don't care that she slept with other guys I really can't stand that she lied to me, even though I told her that I had horrible relationships in the past due to lack of trust and a lot of lies. I am sorry if u are insulted by the way I am in a relationship, good thing we will never date!
Toodaloo Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 I would then list all the fact of why and how she couldn't be. OK so just because a girl dated some guys and likes to wear sexy pants she is clearly shagging around... Kaylub. Please split up with this girl. You are insecure and taking it out on her. You may not think you are but you are. Some of the things you are saying are just wrong... on so many levels... Problem is you are not seeing that! You are not seeing how hurtful what you are saying is and how you are shaming her for both being and not being a virgin at the same time! The poor girl can't win with you either way! I have worn sexy pants when I was a virgin. I also would wear stockings and suspenders under my jeans when I was going through my 4 years of celibacy! NOT to attract men or because I wanted a man in my pants but for ME! Because I liked the underwear and I felt good wearing it! No one was going to see it so what is the harm? Please leave this girl alone. What you are doing could be called abusive... It is certainly very mean and highly confusing.
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