Rachella Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 We broke up 3 weeks ago. It was sudden and while I was pleading for a second chance, he heartlessly rejected me and told me we're not right for each other. I was very devastated and heart broken. When I decided to not plead anymore and just leave and let it be, he started to cry. So I know he does care about me even though he was acting very cold towards me. I cried a lot but eventually decided it's time to move on after the first week. I didn't contact him at all because he did say that the break up means goodbye. However, one week after the break up, he initiated contact. I responded casually and ended the conversation there. I didn't want to have my hopes up because I do want to date him again. Few days later, he initiated contact again. A few times I ignored him because his texts are pretty random. He would send me random videos or tell me he bumped into a friend today. He did send me a random episode of a tvshow that we used to watch together. I didn't respond, because I just didn't know what to say. So, I don't understand. What is he trying to do? I would like to have another chance with this man. But, I'm afraid I'm thinking too much and I have no idea what to do.. =/
mg101 Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 He's using you to get over you. It's selfish. If it's causing you confusion, tell him you're blocking him to move on and take care, then start your real healing. 4
Sunkissedpatio Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 I agree with Mg101 sounds like he is having a hard go with the breakup and misses you and though he doesn't want to get back together he wants you there and to continue all the benefits of the friendship while he moves on with his new single life. If you stick around for it sooner or later he will disappear because he met someone and it'll be like you have to break up all over again. I would ask him point blank why he keeps reaching out to you if he is the one that wanted out what does he possibly want now. I bet you anything he will tell you "I dunnow....I miss you...can't we be friends?" And the rest I've already predicted up top. Take care of yourself, he certainly won't. 4
juniorrocha Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 We always think our relationship is different, but it never is. Put that in your head. What mg101 and Sunkissedpatio said is right. Did he ever mention he wants you back? Did he ever invite you somewhere you could talk and try to reconcile? Nop. He's just feeding you breadcrumbs while you get confused and unable to move on. The same thing happened to my best friend just a month ago. His ex went a month being very distant, they were still together then. She would contact him occasionally 2-3 times a week and that'd be it. Then he broke up because he couldn't deal with her pushing him away any longer. And she continued to feed him breadcrumbs even after he told her it's over. Hell, she even asked him if he could give her a ride to a party he was attending, 'cause she was going too. So do yourself a favor and cut him now. He'll behave just exactly like we're telling you. Maybe after showing him you're not wrapped around his finger, he'll make some real move (don't wait for that though, work on healing and moving on). 2
Giggles666 Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Stay away from him. Block him do what you have to do. I am going through this right now. 1
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