Am I going fast & push him away(lil long)

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I met a guy about a week ago, such a unique person, no big deal 1st night, but as I was leaving he asked for a hug, we did exchange phone #'s, he called me on the way home, to make sure we were ok, (my friend was w/me) then he called next day we were meeting same place, we hit it off,totally clicked, he kept talking to my friend, I found out later it was about me & he thought if he kissed me I would slap him, my friend told him no, so he did & the rest of the night was great, My friend & her date kept wanting to go to a hotel, & telling us, neither one of us wanted to go, but in the end we did, & we ended up paying for it, thats another story, we both agreed we just met & respect eachother enough that sex was NOT gonna happen, & it didn't, we talked all night, by the next day he was calling all the time to say how much he missed me, we didn't see eachother that day but the following day he called me about 10 times saying he can't wait, how great he feels & misses me, I felt the same, we had a great time, but at the end of the evening he wanted to tell me something, he has an ex who still takes care of his mom, she is still in his heart,cause of that, we kept getting interrupted & the story wasn't finished & feelings got hurt & we didn't part very well, the next day I was like a lost puppy, he didn't call all day & wouldn't answer his phone, finally called that evening & he told me felt like a lost puppy too, & 2good nights & 1bad wasn't gonna ruin this, so we didn't see each other that day but the next we met up & he called all day still saying he missed me, we met had a great time, & again at the end we were talking & I think I started pushing my feelings,& there were misunderstandings, so he kissed me goodbye & said maybe we need a few days,the next day he called 1 never said he missed me,I said something to my friend while on the phone w/him & he said well your busy so I'll call you later, by10pm, 8hrs later no call, so I called him left a message saying this is too good to give up on over misunderstandings & not really knowing eachother well yet, well 15 min later he called,he said everytime I call this song by mariah carey comes on ( he thinks its us) "we belong" he said he still not sure what I want & for me to quit saying if he don't want it that I'll leave him alone, we have chemistry, w/abstinence the heart grows fonder, he said he would call me later like in an hour, he was working,well, after an hour & 1/2 & no call I turned it off & went to bed, he called a 1/2 hour after that & his message was,sorry its late get some rest & he'll call soon, no I miss you like he did 20 times in one day before. During the times we were together he has said stuff like, "do you think you in the future could fall in love w/me( he said he wanted to see if we were on the same path, & could I see him in my home & he wants, one day to meet my kids, & he don't want sex till theres real caring, I agree.

Sorry so long but I am really falling for this guy,no one has ever treated me so well & respectful &I did know we were feeling the same, he said he wants to go as slow as molasses(sp), My question is does he still care, am I pushing him away, how do I slow down w/out getting hurt Or making him feel like I don't care? he did say I'm still as single as the day we met & that if I want to date other people thats ok cause he knows I'll end up w/ only him.

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please someone help me out here, i'm really scared & not sure what to think

 

 

thanks

[Kamikrazy]

It sounds like you two have a good chemistry and relationship going. Maybe you shouldn't try to read so much into his lack of saying "I miss you." He obviously cares enough to call you back a few times. Maybe you two did too much too fast and need to take it slower. I understand what it's like to have relationship anxiety and want to be around a person all the time that you like. But whatever may happen it sounds like you have a good attitude and really care about this person so the best of luck to you.

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Kamikrazy, Thanks so much for your reply! I agree I tend to think & then rethink too much sometimes. But I'm so glad I received another persons opinion, I needed to know if this really did sound ok & I wasn't falling for another jerk.