QUESTION FOR THE MEN: Would you have any issues dating a woman with THIS background?

[Gr8fuln2020]

mg101...

 

1. Objectively, do you find her an attractive woman?

2. How did she get into the relationships she has been in? What process took place for her to get into a relationship with two financial leechers!?

3. How long were the relationships?

4. I am no expert, but suspect that she is a co-dependent type. She needs someone to need her and she, in turn, enables them.

5. Why hasn't she dated since the last break-up? Opportunity? Does she initiate or does she wait for the men to come to her? Did she know these two guys before dating?

 

Here's an idea...ask her what it is she is looking for in a man. Really. Has she seriously thought about what type of man would make her happy, open?

[alphamale]

Can you please elaborate as to why? Thanks.

 

sorry but not right now

[SevenCity]

Jesus. I was never sexually assaulted or molested and I'M traumatized by this post.

 

You can see why I'm trying so hard to work it out with my ex

[ChatroomHero]

I wouldn't judge.

 

 

I would think as things started to get serious she would need to bring it up, but no time is a great time. She wouldn't want to have the guy act like he was supportive just trying to get laid. She wouldn't want to say something like, before we get intimate...because there are guys that would take that as, "I'm getting some if I play the sympathy right"...I guess it would be a timing thing, maybe bring it up early in the starting to get serious stage.

 

 

I would steer clear if I knew ahead of time, that's a lot to deal with. For the rest of your life you may be at events where her mood changes and you have to leave early, or cancel on plans with friends. The sex part would be kind of rough too, I'd think I'd feel like I was walking on egg shells and afraid to do certain things. I'd be afraid I might misinterpret signals, etc.

 

 

I know it sounds bad but to me it seems like it would be like getting involved with someone you knew was terminally ill. If you were involved with them and it happened, you would never leave their side. If you knew ahead of time it would be an incredible burden to get involved with. If you found out shortly after getting serious it might seem like you were almost trapped, like I can't leave her now because it will be like I am leaving her just because of her past whether that was the real reason or not.

 

 

If anything, I think timing would be key but it will be difficult to determine the right timing.

 

 

Either way opinions shouldn't stop her from engaging in dating or trying to find someone. It's a difficult situation for sure but it doesn't mean it's impossible.

[Namasteppl]

Absolutely not. There are billions of other women out there that I could date without worrying about such issues.