MJJean Posted July 22, 2016 Posted July 22, 2016 4.)I do believe marriage is about spending the rest of your life with this person until the end of time. I don't even want to have children until we are married. I don't want to buy a house, do a lot of things until we are married because this is a serious thing that i want for us. Sounds pretty traditional to me. You just happen to want a traditional relationship with a same sex partner.
lana-banana Posted July 22, 2016 Posted July 22, 2016 Yes this is 2016, but let me ask you if between the 1800s and 2016, has the sun changed from rising in the East and setting in the West? Some things, like tradition, are timeless because it serves as a benefit to us as a species. But, sadly, without age, experience, and an open mind (and open to the past as much as our present)...it's hard to understand the bigger picture. You know, our parents are here to guide us, cuz in their wisdom (which comes with age/experience) they wouldn't be doing their job if they didn't impart their knowledge to you. We're not like some mammals (like horses) where upon birth we start walking...we need more "raising" and dependence on our parents and elders than a horse. So, I'm sad to see that you see your mother and I as the worst. Uhhh, the wedding traditions of 1800 had precious little in common with the wedding traditions of the 20th century. Unless your father is trading you for livestock in an open field I don't think you can claim your traditions are "timeless". 1
RecentChange Posted July 22, 2016 Posted July 22, 2016 Some things, like tradition, are timeless because it serves as a benefit to us as a species. Traditions are NOT timeless, but rather constantly changing. Lets look at some of the origins of our "wedding traditions": The Wedding Party During the "marriage by capture" era, close friends of the groom-to-be assisted him when he kidnapped the bride from her family. The first ushers and best men were more like a small army, fighting off the brides angry relatives as the groom rode away with her. Bridal Veil When marriages were arranged by family members, the newlyweds very rarely were allowed to see one another. Family members exchanging a dowry were afraid that if the Groom didn't like the appearance of the Bride's face, he might refuse to marry her. Carrying The Bride Over The Threshold When a Groom used to steal his Bride from her tribe, he was forced to carry her kicking and screaming. Garter Brides originally tossed a garter, rather than a bouquet, at a wedding reception. In the 14th century, this custom changed after Brides became tired of fighting off drunken men who tried to remove the garter themselves! Ahh what wonderful, beneficial traditions..... As for white dresses: White Wedding Dress This was made popular in the 1840's by Queen Victoria, who chose this instead of the traditional royal "silver" wedding dress. Prior to this, Brides simply wore their best dress on their wedding day. While the 1840's were a while ago - hardly the beginning of recorded history. Each country, each religion, and each era have their own "wedding traditions" and they are actually fairly fluid, and change considerably over time. 3
Author love1336x Posted July 25, 2016 Author Posted July 25, 2016 Why would you want to marry someone you're so sexually out of sync with? Mr. Lucky I dunno? I don't care about sex for it to impact my relationship as a whole.
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