Princessww13 Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 Okay so I met this guy online. And we decided to meet before I went out of town on vacation. Things seemed wonderful we clicked everything and I was gone for about 9 days. We texted we talked on the phone everything while I was gone. things seemed well when I got home we saw each other for a couple of days. Well he decided to come over to my house and we had a few drinks and he passed out in my bed. Which was fine because I don't want anyone drinking and driving. Well why he was passed out in my bed his phone kept going off so I casually looked at it and it was another girl. He told me he was seeing no one else only me so yes I did look at the text messages and he told her that he would leave my house and come to her house and sleep with her. Well he couldn't do this because again he's passed out in my bed so should I give him another chance? He says she's just a friend and that's how they speak to each other which I find hard to believe Please I need some advice or help my friends say don't do it but something clicked with this guy think I don't know I'm very confused
Redhead14 Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 (edited) Okay so I met this guy online. And we decided to meet before I went out of town on vacation. Things seemed wonderful we clicked everything and I was gone for about 9 days. We texted we talked on the phone everything while I was gone. things seemed well when I got home we saw each other for a couple of days. Well he decided to come over to my house and we had a few drinks and he passed out in my bed. Which was fine because I don't want anyone drinking and driving. Well why he was passed out in my bed his phone kept going off so I casually looked at it and it was another girl. He told me he was seeing no one else only me so yes I did look at the text messages and he told her that he would leave my house and come to her house and sleep with her. Well he couldn't do this because again he's passed out in my bed so should I give him another chance? He says she's just a friend and that's how they speak to each other which I find hard to believe Please I need some advice or help my friends say don't do it but something clicked with this guy think I don't know I'm very confused something clicked with this guy think I don't know I'm very confused -- Whatever clicked with this guy, should be clicked off. and that's how they speak to each other -- He was going to leave your house and come to her house to sleep with her . . . what else do you need to hear? You just met this guy and you're letting him get drunk in your house???? That's unsafe anyway. Well he couldn't do this because again he's passed out in my bed so should I give him another chance? -- So he deserves a second chance because he got so drunk as to pass out in your bed which prevented him from going to another woman's house to sleep with her???? I don't know what kind of logic supports this kind of convoluted thinking. Raise the bar for yourself. Ditch this guy . . . paleeze! Edited July 17, 2016 by Redhead14 1
Author Princessww13 Posted July 17, 2016 Author Posted July 17, 2016 The crazy part is I know the answer but it's just so hard dating nowadays guys are so f****** stupid
Bialy Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 You two aren't exclusive, but that's still no reason for him to lie. He could have easily told you that he was seeing other people. 4
Author Princessww13 Posted July 17, 2016 Author Posted July 17, 2016 Yes we discussed exclusivity. We said we didn't want to see other people so to me that's lying and deceiving 1
Redhead14 Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 The crazy part is I know the answer but it's just so hard dating nowadays guys are so f****** stupid Manage your emotions and expectations, use common sense and stop "looking at the clock". "but it's just so hard dating nowadays" That says "well, I got hold of one, I better hang on to him because I'm running out of time to get a boyfriend". Don't compromise or accept bad behavior from a guy just because dating is hard. You wanna know what's really hard? Getting into a relationship or worse, marrying a guy who cheats on you, lies to you, abuses you, uses you. This guy didn't really owe you anything but he shouldn't have lied. And, just because he passed out, didn't mean that you should let him stay there. You should have awakened him and told him to call a friend to pick him up -- In fact, I would have had him call that woman and tell her to pick him up and then tell him to never call you again.
Author Princessww13 Posted July 17, 2016 Author Posted July 17, 2016 Your totally right he doesn't owe me anything. And no I shouldn't accept bad behavior just to be in a relationship I understand that..... I would give the same advice to my friends so thank you for reminding me what's important 1
LostOnes05 Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 LOL at you even questioning yourself on this. Get rid of him. But odds are the fact that you're even questioning it, he'll sweet talk you and you'll convince yourself he's a stand up guy. The guy isn't too bright and a liar too. Sincerely, A guy who isn't f@#*# stupid
JewelD Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 You guys barely know each other, def shouldn't be looking through his phone just because he's passed out. You obviously didn't trust him to begin with. I'm sure that other girl is just a friend. A friend he's screwing. So technically he didn't lie to you. Drop him. 1
todreaminblue Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 stay far far away .....this guy doesnt sound good at all...and even though its hard dating these days...its better to be single and enjoy life than live with drama and deceit....best wishes...deb 1
Author Princessww13 Posted July 18, 2016 Author Posted July 18, 2016 Just so we're clear I wasn't going through his phone because he was passed out his phone kept going off multiple times. I'm not one to snoop through someone's phone but I was like what the hell maybe something's wrong and I need to wake him up so I looked at it and it was from another girl At this point I have nothing to do with him I just want to make sure that I'm not the crazy one
JewelD Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 Just so we're clear I wasn't going through his phone because he was passed out his phone kept going off multiple times. I'm not one to snoop through someone's phone but I was like what the hell maybe something's wrong and I need to wake him up so I looked at it and it was from another girl At this point I have nothing to do with him I just want to make sure that I'm not the crazy one If his phone was going off and you thought it was en emergency, why didn't you just wake him up to tell him to check it himself? And you went through a whole text conversation. That was a choice you made because you wanted to see who he was talking to. That's snooping. It worked out for you this time but that's a good way to ruin a relationship and have a man think you are 'the crazy one'. Just sayin. Once you feel the need to start snooping through people's things, it's best to just end it rather than searching for evidence. 1
SevenCity Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 If his phone was going off and you thought it was en emergency, why didn't you just wake him up to tell him to check it himself? And you went through a whole text conversation. That was a choice you made because you wanted to see who he was talking to. That's snooping. It worked out for you this time but that's a good way to ruin a relationship and have a man think you are 'the crazy one'. Just sayin. Once you feel the need to start snooping through people's things, it's best to just end it rather than searching for evidence. I tend to agree with this. If you snoop you don't trust. If you don't trust, that's a bad RL doomed to failure. 1
Author Princessww13 Posted July 18, 2016 Author Posted July 18, 2016 Yall can think I was snopping but there was no walking him up and I read what was there . Nothing more than that. And yes I probably shouldnt have but I did ......nothing can change that. So judge all you want . I didn't say it was the right choice but it happened.
SevenCity Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 Yall can think I was snopping but there was no walking him up and I read what was there . Nothing more than that. And yes I probably shouldnt have but I did ......nothing can change that. So judge all you want . I didn't say it was the right choice but it happened. I wasn't judging you. Everyone has snooped at one point. I just think it's not a good idea. The chances are slim that you will find anything unless you are hard core spying. At that point, the RL is dead. 1
Author Princessww13 Posted July 18, 2016 Author Posted July 18, 2016 Agree I hate to look because you will always find something you don't want. If your phone is going off in the middle of the night something is up.
BaileyB Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 This does not sound like a man you can trust. I would send him packing personally...
longjohn Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 Okay so I met this guy online. And we decided to meet before I went out of town on vacation. Things seemed wonderful we clicked everything and I was gone for about 9 days. We texted we talked on the phone everything while I was gone. things seemed well when I got home we saw each other for a couple of days. Well he decided to come over to my house and we had a few drinks and he passed out in my bed. Which was fine because I don't want anyone drinking and driving. Well why he was passed out in my bed his phone kept going off so I casually looked at it and it was another girl. He told me he was seeing no one else only me so yes I did look at the text messages and he told her that he would leave my house and come to her house and sleep with her. Well he couldn't do this because again he's passed out in my bed so should I give him another chance? He says she's just a friend and that's how they speak to each other which I find hard to believe Please I need some advice or help my friends say don't do it but something clicked with this guy think I don't know I'm very confused The guy is an obvious moron and you are too if you believe his crap. You should have texted that "girl" back and told her he was gay and was spending the night with his bf. Afterwards I'd have "accidentally" dropped his phone so the screen broke.. aww. Then acted none the wiser the next morning Afterwards blocked his number and deleted it. People who lie, cheat and treat others like crap should be punished and harshly.
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