brittneyfoster Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 (edited) So for the last three months, I have been seeing this guy and we are long distance but things have been pretty good. We talk about any and every thing, enjoy one another, and communicate well. Any time we have an issue...he mentions it or I will bring it up...we discuss it and then move on from it. It was really nice. Well, we met online. Recently, he has been talking more about "I want this to work. I really want this with you. I want to make it stronger and better and build on what we have. I'm not going anywhere" like he keeps stating that his intentions are to be together...based on what I understand. So now that he has stated that, I have kind of fallen back so much from the dating site and from talking to other guys. The other morning I did just check the website out of boredom. Sometimes I think its just a habit even when I don't answer any messages. I was missing him too, so I checked his page so I could look at some of his pictures. I don't have IG, FB, or any of that...so the only pics I have are there. So when I clicked his page, I immediately saw that he had updated his page to include some of his new social media websites. I was kind of shocked because although I don't expect him to delete the page until we have the official talk...I don't expect him to be updating it either...to me its a clear sign that he's engaging and active...which contradicts his telling me what he wants with me. So I immediately texted him and said "Hey whats going on? You know I am feeling like you're playing games. I went online to check messages as I do sometimes when I am bored and I see that you're updating your page? How could you tell me that you're wanting something with me and do that too? Like just be honest." and he says "Really? You're coming at me with that?" and I said "Yeah, like that's all youre saying?" and hes like "You expect me to really expound upon this nonsense?" and I was like "You know..I need the truth...if youre meeting them...having sex with them...talking..please tell me so that I can protect my health and my feelings. If we are having unprotected sex, then I definitely need to know these things." and he went on to state how I can take what I want from him being on there just like he does with me being on there and that he told me what his intentions are and he stands behind that. He stated that he wasn't messing with anyone else and would let me know if it came to that. and I asked him to clarify what he meant by "if it came to that" and hes like "because you are making assumptions that I am sleeping around". We talked more and I was confused because all he kept stating was his intentions and what he has told me his intentions are and if otherwise he would have told me. Meanwhile, I never got a real understanding of what the tinder update was about. I tried calling him that night so I could gain clarity and move on like we always do except he didn't answer. Called twice and he didn't answer. The next morning I texted him several times and no response so finally I asked him to tell me something if he was ok or wanted to be left alone. He finally responded "I'm ok" and he wouldn't respond to any of my calls or texts that day. I was asking what was wrong and what did I do to make him not want to talk to me at all? Wednesday morning he texted me and was basically saying how his issue was that I tried to say he was sleeping around(although I really didn't...I was asking him to help me understand) and that he had told me what his intentions with me were but he didn't understand why I was so confused about it. He told me that I was creating stuff in my own head even though he told me his intentions plain and simple. And now he sees what I really think of him and he was gonna let me take it and run with it as far as I could and that he was kinda turned off. I responded to his text explaining and even apologized but just wanted to make sure that I didn't get hurt in this entire ordeal. He still hasn't spoken to me since that text. I am not texting anymore...but I am so confused? I called to talk everything out Monday night...I wasn't mad...I just wanted to be clear...it's no different than any other time when I asked for clarity and he explains we talk about it...but I am just feeling really bad about it right now. I felt like if we are working to pursue a relationship and having unprotected sex...I do reserve the right to ask why you're updating your dating website page...don't expect you to delete it but don't expect you to update either. Like how does he get mad at me and cut me off?! Edited July 17, 2016 by brittneyfoster sigh
SevenCity Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 It's sound like, like, you're stalking him. Like.
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