TheBathWater Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 (edited) I'm in an unusual situation and am trying to figure out how to experience it fully so that it leads to character growth. Long story short, I just moved into a new apartment with a few people who already know each other. We have a subletter who just moved in too, and she is with us for a few more weeks. I didn't feel anything romantic for her initially, I don't know why, but now I do. Something about her made me very curious... I am hesitant to make a move on her though because she lives in the house with me for a few more weeks, is dating someone else (non-seriously, but still), and perhaps above all...is giving me mixed signals. Sometimes she seems into me and chats me up a lot (more so than the other housemates), and other times I think she's just very friendly, that's all. Tried inviting her out once and she gently declined. To me, that was the giveaway. I haven't bothered suggesting anything since and won't unless she does. I have such freakin' hots for this woman. It's probably so intense because she is under the same roof as me and I know that. I believe I would easily be her greatest lover, taking her higher than she's ever been If she was not my roommate, I would tell her this directly and turn up the heat on the pursuit, but I don't want to develop a bad reputation in the apartment by creating an intense dynamic. As a result, I feel I'm repressing my natural self. Oh, the things I would show her... So, how do I cope with this and learn something from the experience? How can I hold the tension of this energy and still be natural in my home? How to not be awkward? Edited July 17, 2016 by TunaInTheBrine
Shining One Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 So, how do I cope with this and learn something from the experience? How can I hold the tension of this energy and still be natural in my home? How to not be awkward?Go out and have ONS or two. I've been in this situation and that worked for me. 1
losangelena Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 The fact that she's seeing someone doesn't phase you? Just ... stay away. Between the boyfriend and the living situation, this just screams "NOT WORTH IT." Find someone else's world to rock. 1
frus69 Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 You have hotz you are going through a dry spell. You just wanna have sex, have it with someone else 1
Author TheBathWater Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 You have hotz you are going through a dry spell. You just wanna have sex, have it with someone else Definitely no dry spell. I have women in my life. But she makes me very curious...
Author TheBathWater Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 The fact that she's seeing someone doesn't phase you? Just ... stay away. Between the boyfriend and the living situation, this just screams "NOT WORTH IT." Find someone else's world to rock. She doesn't have a boyfriend.
LookAtThisPOst Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 She doesn't have a boyfriend. Right, she's dating someone non-seriously, so all is good.
Popsicle Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Lol this is funny. I would discourage roommate romances. I guess all you can do is continue to be tortured. Lol
katiegrl Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 I have such freakin' hots for this woman. It's probably so intense because she is under the same roof as me and I know that. Yup, and combined with the fact she is casually involved with another guy, she is unavailable to you.... which adds to the intensity. But hey you never know. Have some drinks and see what happens. She is only a temporary roommate, right?
elaine567 Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Tried inviting her out once and she gently declined. ^^^this^^^ She ain't interested in you. Leave her alone.
frus69 Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Definitely no dry spell. I have women in my life. But she makes me very curious... You have a girlfriend? Or you have f buddies?
Author TheBathWater Posted July 25, 2016 Author Posted July 25, 2016 (edited) You have a girlfriend? Or you have f buddies? I have a few women in my life, romantically. One who I have sex with; others I'm just dating here and there (for now). No official girlfriend right now, and I'm in no rush for one. I still feel confused by some of my roommate's signals (she seems to be increasingly warm and focused with me). I need something a little more explicitly flirtatious from her in order to make a move though. For now, I interpret it as her being friendly. If we didn't live together, I would pursue her with intensity. I feel phony that I play nice with her and hide my edgy sexual side. Don't want to cause any waves in the house though and act presumptuously. But if she by chance steps forward, I will lead the rest of the dance. Edited July 25, 2016 by TunaInTheBrine
HumanMachine Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 I believe I would easily be her greatest lover, taking her higher than she's ever been Wut 1
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