connormo Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 So she is across the country. We went on half a dozen dates when I was home, yes we've had sex. I've been away for about two months now and I haven't kissed or hooked up with anyone since being here because I like her a lot, (meanwhile a lot of other people are hooking up around me). Meanwhile I'm pretty sure she may be messing around (but she's still slept with less people than me- which I like for some reason). We talked last night, she basically said we'd be exclusive if I wasn't across the country. I said I'm coming back soon just don't know when- realistically a few weeks to a few months I hope unless I get a really good job. But she also said not to wait on her and she's kind of doing the same... I only want her and I feel she's not on the same level so is that a sign I should give up? I know it's not fair to ask her to wait or whatever. I'm just not gonna spend some time without talking to her and see how she goes but anyone have Any advice on this situ? Thanks
leogirl876 Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 So she is across the country. We went on half a dozen dates when I was home, yes we've had sex. I've been away for about two months now and I haven't kissed or hooked up with anyone since being here because I like her a lot, (meanwhile a lot of other people are hooking up around me). Meanwhile I'm pretty sure she may be messing around (but she's still slept with less people than me- which I like for some reason). We talked last night, she basically said we'd be exclusive if I wasn't across the country. I said I'm coming back soon just don't know when- realistically a few weeks to a few months I hope unless I get a really good job. But she also said not to wait on her and she's kind of doing the same... I only want her and I feel she's not on the same level so is that a sign I should give up? I know it's not fair to ask her to wait or whatever. I'm just not gonna spend some time without talking to her and see how she goes but anyone have Any advice on this situ? Thanks I think long distance relationships that start out long distance are extremely hard to work out and make successful. And I also think since she's saying to you to not wait around, she's not very optimistic about it working out. If you lived in the same city or same state that would be one thing. I just personally can't see how starting something with someone 1,000 miles away makes sense to anyone. If you like her, continue to contact her, see her when you go into town, but don't put your heart on the line, keep your options open.
Author connormo Posted July 17, 2016 Author Posted July 17, 2016 Oh I know all about the long distance struggle. My only relationship before this was LD and it was with a girl who lived close to where I'm living now- basically, my love life is just one big ironic ****show. Thanks for the input
phineas Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 Oh I know all about the long distance struggle. My only relationship before this was LD and it was with a girl who lived close to where I'm living now- basically, my love life is just one big ironic ****show. Thanks for the input There is no love life with long distance. It's worse than being single as far as i'm concerned. Why would you commit yourself to someone you can't have an actual real relationship with? It makes zero sense.
Author connormo Posted July 17, 2016 Author Posted July 17, 2016 I will quite possibly ALWAYS be travelling back and forth or here/there for work. So I'm looking for someone who can commit to me being away for a certain amount of time and then coming back. Even if I'm technically a 'long distance' away, I'm hoping I'm still able to find someone to love. I don't think that's too much to search for (is it?) But nowadays with all the technology and options/ways to meet people locally, that seems impossible.
Ami1uwant Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 Long distance relationships can work out. It is difficult. For example you develop a relationship living in the same area then one needs to move because of their job can strain things. If it's something like a 6 month move to another area people can survive that. Similarly happens if each are going to college in different areas. Now with online and cell phones communication is easier. If you start out long distance it can work out later if one plans on moving to the other, or both decide to movie to the same city.
Author connormo Posted July 17, 2016 Author Posted July 17, 2016 Long distance relationships can work out. It is difficult. For example you develop a relationship living in the same area then one needs to move because of their job can strain things. If it's something like a 6 month move to another area people can survive that. Similarly happens if each are going to college in different areas. Now with online and cell phones communication is easier. If you start out long distance it can work out later if one plans on moving to the other, or both decide to movie to the same city. Good to hear, because I've never had mutual attraction with someone who's within my vicinity haha just my luck I guess
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