sid106 Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 Hi, I feel so hurt today that I felt like I needed to write this. I'm 26 years old and have never been in a relationship. All my life I dreamt that one day I would meet someone truly special - the girl of my dreams. What I never imagined is that one day I would meet her but she would not like me back. I met this girl at the end of 2015. My parents happen to know her parents and so we met when we were invited for dinner one day. I was instantly taken back - I have never seen anyone so beautiful, so perfect in every way - my dream girl. We started Whatsapping and used to talk to each other every day for hours. I just couldnt believe the connection we had. I had never had a connection like that with anyone. But one day I found out that she has a long standing boyfriend and she really really likes him. I told her how I felt and she told me that she had no such feelings. She just liked talking to me. For her I was just someone she would chat with to kill some time but for me it was special. Eventually I told her that we can't keep talking so regularly because I just couldnt get over her. We stopped talking but I just couldnt get over her. A few days ago I met her in person again and I feel so empty inside. I feel like there is a void in my life that I will never be able to fill and that I can never truly be happy. I met the girl of my dreams and she was not interested. How am I ever supposed to get over that ? Or may be I will have to learn to live with this void. I have worked hard all my life, I have been good, nice, full of ambition. But for the first time in my life I dont know what the ambition is for anymore. No matter how much success I have in my career, without her there just isn't any meaning to it all. I feel empty and aimless. I had almost given up on meeting "the perfect girl" before I met her. Now I have to go on knowing she exists but she can never be a part of my life. I don't know how to cope with that.
Bialy Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 Think about it this way: She really wasn't the girl of your dreams then. And you never dated or had a relationship with her, so there really is not much to get over. You built this up into more than it really was. She was just a chat buddy. Also: I think it can be dangerous to describe anyone as "perfect" - none of us are perfect. You're going to always be alone and massively disappointed with anyone if you're looking for a "dream" or "perfection."
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