singlelife Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Ladys can you share how you like to be talked to when out at the bar, library, shopping?
preraph Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 At a bar, first of all, maybe best to avoid a place that is strictly a pickup bar. Some people think all are, but they're not. I spent a lot of time in music bars listening to bands. One of my friends met his wife at a 50s sock hop night at a bar. Others enjoy karoake or sports bars. The key is to have something in common with the other bar-goers such as that. One good way to break the ice at a bar is to just be passing by and comment on the surroundings in an off-hand way. Like at a music bar, you're headed to the bar for a drink, you pass close by someone you might like and just look up and say "Good band,huh?" and keep going, not waiting for an answer. This breaks the ice so the next time you walk by, maybe they'll look welcoming -- or maybe they will studiously avoid you, so you take your cue from that. But if they look welcoming, introduce yourself and stand by them and watch the band for awhile, offer to buy a drink or whatever. I'm in my 60s now (female), but I still talk to people all the time, though I'm not looking for a bf. Like one day me and my girlfriend went to the adjoining town to a BBQ place that has great french fries. You can get a rather large single order OR you can share an entire beer tray of them. We wanted to take some home with us, so we ordered the tray full of them. Well, just about every guy who walked by us stopped and did a double-take and asked if we were going to eat all that or if we wanted to share or whatever. If someone is friendly, you only have to provide an excuse or opening and they will jump in. If they don't, move on. 2
TheBathWater Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 Dude, just walk up and say "hi." There's no other way, and there's no sure formula.
longjohn Posted July 17, 2016 Posted July 17, 2016 From behind with a rag soaked in chloroform.. JOKE! Sorry I couldn't resist. The title was begging for this lol. Seriously though, just strike up a conversation. Women are people too. Just talk see where it goes. It isn't rocket science. Maybe a female friend can help you in this area? 1
thguy Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 One good way to break the ice at a bar is to just be passing by and comment on the surroundings in an off-hand way. Like at a music bar, you're headed to the bar for a drink, you pass close by someone you might like and just look up and say "Good band,huh?" and keep going, not waiting for an answer. This breaks the ice Key words -- and keep going, not waiting for an answer
Author singlelife Posted July 18, 2016 Author Posted July 18, 2016 Key words -- and keep going, not waiting for an answer Does that work? Just keep going?
GorillaTheater Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 Practice talking to all people in all settings, whether in a line at the supermarket or in an elevator or wherever. If you're comfortable striking up a conversation with anyone, striking up one with an attractive woman isn't much of a step at all. 4
gimlynick Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 Does that work? Just keep going? You'll find out in less then 30 seconds if she is interested ;-)
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 Practice talking to all people in all settings, whether in a line at the supermarket or in an elevator or wherever. If you're comfortable striking up a conversation with anyone, striking up one with an attractive woman isn't much of a step at all. Sounds good
ChickiePops Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 For me, making me laugh is the easiest way to approach me.
basil67 Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 Ladys can you share how you like to be talked to when out at the bar, library, shopping? Generally I was never a fan of being picked up while doing errands or at a bar. However, I'm very happy to generally talk with strangers. Find a topic in common: At the library, if she's browsing at something which interests you, you may find conversation there. If she's actively reading, leave her alone. I had a nice conversation with a man in the street recently which started by me talking about making stock with the fruit shop owner and he was standing next to me. Shopping? Just don't come up to her while she's choosing an avocado and ask "do you come here often?". Groan. True story.
BaileyB Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Just say hello and start a conversation. Compliments early on can sound very forced and fake. Witty, intelligent humor goes a long way........
Haydn Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 Fresh fruit section.... Start tapping the apples etc... `That`s good`... Girls love a bloke who knows his fruit. Have a furtive look on your face. Really. 2
bummer Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 I aim for furtive pensive when squeezing fruit to compliment the intrigue. Just a sly glance to alert them of your intentions with your lemons, then look away and downwards in thoughtful remeberance... Move towards the carrots and wait for her answer. Girls pee and poop just like you. Smile and ask what they are drinking. be ready with a reply: that's my favourite... would you like another?... You really like gin?... How's your night?... have you tried xxxxx?...
phineas Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 I'm older. Women who are interested usually just gravitate towards me or stare. and FYI, women you say when a man stares its creepy? If you saw yourselves in the mirror when you stared at a guy you found attractive......I feel like I got something in my teeth, spider on my face, bee in my hair, a second head sprouted out of my neck....
Lady2163 Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 The hit and run, "great band, huh" comment might not get my attention. It would have to be delivers with really good timing and some eye contact or I'd think he was talking on an earpiece.... In a bar? That's easy. Surreptitiously watch her and when he drink is low, "Hi, how are you? Could I buy you a drink?" You'll know by the end of the drink if you're interested in more. A compliment would get my attention, but unless there is something attention grabbing that can be tricky.
SevenCity Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 I'm older. Women who are interested usually just gravitate towards me or stare. and FYI, women you say when a man stares its creepy? If you saw yourselves in the mirror when you stared at a guy you found attractive......I feel like I got something in my teeth, spider on my face, bee in my hair, a second head sprouted out of my neck.... Well that's a relief. I've had women stare at me in exactly this way and thought "WTF is wrong with me?" Lol. I've moreoften had this penetrating stare than a simple smile. A smile conveys attraction much more
SevenCity Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 The hit and run, "great band, huh" comment might not get my attention. It would have to be delivers with really good timing and some eye contact or I'd think he was talking on an earpiece.... In a bar? That's easy. Surreptitiously watch her and when he drink is low, "Hi, how are you? Could I buy you a drink?" You'll know by the end of the drink if you're interested in more. A compliment would get my attention, but unless there is something attention grabbing that can be tricky. This is an excellent way to pay for a woman's drinks all night who has zero interest in anything but drinking for free. 2
LookAtThisPOst Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 For me, making me laugh is the easiest way to approach me. If she doesn't think you're attractive, she'll not laugh.
Lady2163 Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 This is an excellent way to pay for a woman's drinks all night who has zero interest in anything but drinking for free. You buy her ONE drink, you'll know by the end of that drink if you're interested in more. Your choice if you buy more drinks or ask her to dance. Or you can even let her buy her own drinks.
90s kid Posted July 20, 2016 Posted July 20, 2016 For me, there's nothing in particular that I want to hear when a guy approaches me. He just needs to be polite, introduce himself, and be charming.
CryForNoOne Posted July 22, 2016 Posted July 22, 2016 A friend of mine used to always keep gum, cigarettes (even though he didn't really smoke), and a lighter with him at all times. He used all 3 as a great ice breaker...
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 Probably the most common question asked by guys wanting to improve their dating life
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