CryForNoOne Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 I met a waitress who works at a bar I frequent. I've had my eye on her for a while but have this thing about not hitting on women while they're working. This night, she was hanging out there after her shift. She was chatting with the bouncer, whom I know fairly well, so I just positioned myself near them. When he walked away, she started chatting with me. Although we also interacted with mutual friends, we mostly talked with each other the rest of the night. When she went to the bathroom, without much thought, I looked her up on Facebook and friend requested her. When she came back, she said she accepted. I probably should have asked for her number directly, which is what I usually do. I prefer that because my intentions are much clearer. At last call, a friend of mine and her girlfriends wanted to get food. I invited the waitress and she joined us. I sat next to her in the booth and again we talked mostly just the two of us. She told me she was single and definitely seemed interested but the night ended with her slipping away with an Uber. I was the only one who was driving and wound up dropping off the 3 other girls, the last one I dropped off hit on me when when we were alone. But that's an aside and I sadly wasn't interested... Anyway, I Facebook messaged her the next afternoon "You were so stealthy grabbing that Uber ride. Seriously next time it's no problem giving you a lift. I've known Jen for years and have done the same many times." She replied around midnight after I fell asleep so I didn't see until this morning "Haha no worries matey I didn't want you driving all around town all night - thanks for driving everyone last night!" "Matey" is not in my vernacular, but she's from New Zealand and I assume she means "friend"? Just seemed like an odd word choice. Anyway, there's no question I'm going to ask her out. I just wish I had been able to do it in person. Now my two choices seem to be to try to strike up a convo on Facebook OR do it in person. I always prefer the latter but missed my chance and really don't want to return to the bar just to do that. Any thoughts on my next move?
preraph Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 It sounds like you were expecting her to go home and sleep with you just because she accepted your invitation to grab a bite with friends. I'm sure she simply didn't want to put herself into a situation with you. It's not always safe getting into a car with a guy you just met, but more often it just ends up in a begging situation with the girl saying no and the guy persisting, which gets old to a woman, so we avoid it. Just send her a PM via Facebook and ask if she'd like to go on a date.
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