steenerz Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 tonight on the way home from my bf's house, i got a speeding ticket...of course i'm like mad, devastated, upset blah blah...then i came home, went online and saw that he was on and told him wut happened...he was just like "i told you so many times not to speed and you did, you didn't listen to me...you should drive more like me...your entire paycheck just went down the drain..." like, ok as if i didn't know...ugh i just wish he would have been more comforting...like tell me it'll be ok and stuff and not make me feel like such an idiot. IS he mean? Or am i just being too sensitive?
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 No, he's not being mean. He's being practical, and is indulging in a bit of "I told you so". Take what he says as a sign that he cares about you and that he was trying to look out for you by warning you that you should be more careful. Just tell him that you've learned your lesson and will slow down, but right now you're looking for an ounce of sympathy. And remember....don't sweat the small stuff....and in light of the fact that a lot worse things could have happened, this really is just small stuff.
Author steenerz Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 this brings up another issue. I just wish i wasn't so sensitive. i take everything to heart, which means my feelings get hurt, even when i know my bf or friends are just joking, cuz it makes me wonder...wut if they really are thinking that way? blah i dunno.
Cwazydude Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Yeah, your oversensitive. ...And don't be hurt by this, im not trying to be mean. ... And maybe your a little paranoid too.
moimeme Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 If somebody warns you not to pick up the snake because the snake will bite you and you pick up the snake and get bitten, why do you deserve sympathy? You were warned and went ahead and did the very thing you were warned about. You created your own problem. Now you've taken a financial hit for speeding, maybe you'll finally wise up before you hurt or kill yourself and/or someone else.
griftymcgriff Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 The part about you taking things to heart is aparently called Emotionally Dependant. Or something...Getting hurt about others feelings is sort of a problem for a lot of people. I really dont know how to change that, i have the same problems. I read it on some councelling site hehe.
elijahBailey Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by steenerz this brings up another issue. I just wish i wasn't so sensitive. i take everything to heart, which means my feelings get hurt, even when i know my bf or friends are just joking, cuz it makes me wonder...wut if they really are thinking that way? I can relate to that. It's really got to do with your own confidence. Because you're not sure about yourself, you're vulnerable to what other people might say about you. You can control it to a certain degree, but, really, don't fret over it. Look at it this way, people talk about one another all the time. It's just the way people are, and, most of the time there's no malice intended
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