smackie9 Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 If there's name dropping and he talks about all the things he's GOING to do, not what he has accomplished...ew just ew. I really can't stand a guy that has to pump his own tires....he is not impressing anyone. I need someone who can engage my intellect, and have stimulating conversation. I most certainly don't want to hear myself talk all night as he sits there like a lump of boring. 1
louxor Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 It just boils down to insecurity - The more insecure, the more they need to make up for it by trying to prove themselves as "worthy" to you, hence the endless talking about themselves. Can't do much about it other than moving on to the next one lol 2
Tayla Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 the art of communication, to listen, to engage. first date is the appetizer...minimal depth yet enough to intrigue. Intice. the OP seems to listen ( well done!), the engaging thru turning subjects or re-direct seems to need improvement. I find men fascinating to some extent, yet a montage of "i's" does wear on a person. Someone mentioned creating a ruse to exit. I tend to be honest...and prefer that they understand the reason for the abrupt exit. How else will they re-adjust for their next date with themself? So many come here to LS and asked what went wrong......I directly tell my date so they a have a better grasp. Live and Learn.
phineas Posted July 19, 2016 Posted July 19, 2016 How bad to you wanna get laid? Sorry, not that badly.
Author leogirl876 Posted July 19, 2016 Author Posted July 19, 2016 I have a question.... Are the guys just talking about themselves or are the woman asking questions so they are responding ???? If it's that then the guys shouldn't be bashed. I have been on dates where I ask the woman questions and all I get are short ended replies that don't yield to conversation..not even questions in return from her. If I get that 3 times in a row the date is effectively over. Basically all about them. Date 1 was much worse than date 2. Date 1 was the worst ever. All he did was talk, talk, talk. When there was a chance, I would ask him questions, and there were only a couple of questions he asked me. When I'd start to talk about myself, the conversation would go right back to him. It was like he told me his whole life story. It blew my mind! I'm not used to going out with a man that talks that much. A girlfriend said to me, if you ever meet a guy like that again, just tell him to write a book so everyone can just read it instead of hearing him say it! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Definitely taking this as a lessons learned in dating. I'm not gonna "be nice" and stick around for this again. Who cares if I hurt their feelings when they're not concerned about mine.
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