StevePeshem Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 First of can I start by saying I don't mind her kissing others, (I haven't even asked her out) it's her choice and I respect that, I have kissed other girls since knowing her. But I've never told her, her telling me makes me feel like I've been friendzoned. the thing is, I've been busy all week and haven't really spoken to her let alone given her a reason to hint 'I need to put this guy in the friendzone' She just messaged me saying "I'm grumpy" "I kissed a guy the other week and he ghosted me, I'm not upset with the guy just that this always happens" I was about to ask her out next weekend but now I can't even bring myself to reply to her, feels like a gut shot. Shall I just up and leave, I don't really think I can continue a friendship with her.
Poutrew Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Sounds to me like you are friendzoned. You can test the assumption by texting her back something like: "If you were kissing me you would never be ghosted again. Haha " And see what she says.
sparkle222 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 actually haha, I've been the girl in this situation, I have a guy friend who I sometimes thinks likes me but who hasn't made a move and has talked about girls he gets with.. so in a sort of moment of annoyance/closeness I told him about getting with someone.. and it did weirdly shift our dynamic. I have no idea if he took that as him being friend zoned or if he had friend zoned me. But I think it'd be sad if he did take it as me friend zoning him (esp since I was taking his chat about girls as him friend zoning me).. at some point someone should just say something. I like the suggestion 2 comments above if you want to approach it subtly, or you really could just ask her out, it's not the end of the world if she says no.. the alternative is to just stay in the friend zone with an annoying "what if" in your head.
Versacehottie Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 you are either friendzoned or she has bad judgement OR BOTH. I think she has bad judgement and is insensitive. I think even when you know a guy likes you but you don't return the sentiment, the majority of decent women (who know how to be good friends as well!), don't throw stuff in your face about other guys (not in way she has). It is also possible she could be the very shallow and immature type who mistakenly thinks saying this kind of stuff in front of a guy who is interested in her will work in her favor. It's a risk that sometimes pays off but often backfires--but either way it's not nice NOR someone I would recommend you getting in a relationship with. You sound like a good guy--find someone deserving of you. Good luck
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