What you think i should do?

[Sonic55]

So, there's this girl that likes me.

She first saw me at a birthday party last September at my friends girlfriend who is her friend. And she told her that she likes me.

But at the time i was seeing this other girl and i didnt do anything about it. After about a month i had a bad breakup so i wasnt feeling like dating anyone for months.

So about 2 months ago i added her on fb and we talked couple of times, but i havent asked her out yet. The thing is that i feel kinda bad cause i waited so long to act on it.

[preraph]

No, don't feel bad. Everyone understands it can take time to recover from a breakup, and actually that is in your favor because it shows you had genuine feelings and weren't just playing.

 

Tell her, Hey, I think I'm ready to stop sitting around and go out again. Can I take you to _____ this Friday?

[Sonic55]

Okay im asking her out, im thinking the zoo (i dont really like going out on drinks)

Cause we dont see each other in person, im gonna ask her out on fb.

What do you think of this:

Hey, what are you doing this friday? If she replies with i dont know, ill say i know were going out

I always ask girls out in some unusual way, and go to unusual places for dates.

What do you think, am i set to go with this?

[MzLady]

Sounds like a plan! Good luck BTW.. The fact that you were dating someone already and didn't act on the info you got about her liking you says a lot about you. And if she asks you why the delay.. be honest.. what you did was the right thing and she will appreciate that about you.

[Sonic55]

So i have contacted her today.

I asked her whats her plans for Wednesday, and she said shes not sure if shell be working (some catering). And she continued asking some questions, where im going on holiday, how am i etc.

After some chatting i suggested her to give me her number so i can call her some day to set it up when shell can. I also mentioned that well go on some place fun, but i wanted to keep it a secret. She ignored my question about her number and asked what is that place where i plan to take her, to witch i replied that i want to keep it a secret, and to wait.

My last message she havent opened it yet, and its been over an hour, i know that she was online almost all the time cause i was chatting with some friends at the same time.

Like wtf she is ignoring me.

When girls do like this im taking them off the list, im not contacting again.

But i dont know if im overreacting, tell me your opinion.

Thanks for all the replies guys

[SevenCity]

You waited over two months to ask and are complaining about an hour?

 

First, chill. If it works out great, if not there will be another.

 

I'm not crazy about a secret destination for a first date. She could be creeped out into thinking this secret could be a freshly dug grave in the woods.

 

This isn't your 20th anniversary. This is your first date. If I was a chick I would be scared - you are putting too much into this and setting expectations WAY too high.

[Sonic55]

Yeap, no reply yet.

I thought that if i dont tell her were im taking her it will be more interesting, and she will want to find out.

[Sonic55]

Should i try and contact her again after some time, or to move on?

Its confusing cause i know that she likes me

[MzLady]

I agree.. the whole secret date thing was a little much. In this day and age, there are too many creepers out there and I'd never agree to something like that. I know you said you don't like to do coffee/drinks dates... but I think meeting for coffee just to hang out and chat is your best bet. You have to establish yourself with her first. Wait until you get to know her before you start pulling out all the stops. If she never replied back.. then maybe you could send her one last message and say "Hey.. would you be interested in meeting for coffee this weekend?" If you don't get an answer, you know she's not interested anymore. Best of luck.

[Sonic55]

She knows that im a nice guy, not a creep. As i said we have mutual friend so im not some random dude