4x4storm Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Buckle in for this roller coaster So over two months ago I matched with this girl on a dating site we got talking so I asked her out she said "oh really?" and just completely went around it. I asked her out again the week after and she gave the same response. So I just deleted my profile for 2 weeks so I could focus on other things. When I reactivated my profile she accepted my match request again.....she instantly sends me a message asking why I deactivated my account so I told her. We talk on and off for the next few weeks then I deleted my profile again this time she had my number and almost instantly I get a txt saying "Omg why did you delete your profile please add me on facebook!" So I did but this time I discover she is on tinder and her bio describes she is after fun. I'm like screw it instead of asking her out on a date i'll invite her straight to my place and she accepted! A day before she comes over I ask is she still good for tomorrow to which she replies "ahh what is on tomorrow?" Turns out she forgot about me and booked a date with another guy instead! she then insisted that she comes over early in the morning then visit the other guy right after me so I went along with it. Like I expected the next morning she makes some excuse to why she can't come over I ignore her messages so she keeps messaging me all day saying how she is so sorry and if I can forgive her. So we reschedule for Sunday.. Sunday rolls around and i'm actually sick so I tell her not to come over after that we don't talk at all for weeks so I just delete her on everything. Well again almost seconds after deleting her I get blasted with messages! I tell her I thought she wasn't interested to which she replies that she is very interested and loves talking to me. So last night she finally comes around....we put on a movie and through out the whole thing she is texting people! Every time I glanced over she would hide her screen. I noticed her breathing got heavy so I started to rub her thighs I did that for 15 minutes and go absolute no where. Movie ends so we decide to end the night there. As I'm putting on my shoes to walk her to her car she keeps telling me that I don't have to I snap out of my calm state and say "Look i'm just trying to be nice" I walk her to the car we hug and say goodbye 1 hour later I get a text from her saying she had fun and apologized for leaving early. I said that was fine if you want to do it again sometime just let me know to which she replied...... I would love to do it again
Zahara Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 She loves the attention. Knowing she can pick you up whenever she wants and you'll be right there.
SevenCity Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Yep. Have more respect for yourself than this. It's one thing if you banged her but she's got zero interest in anything other than attention. Why would you delete your profile based on this one girl? 2
smudge21 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 She's playing you and wanting to be wanted. Don't fall into that trap of being addicted to one person, where you're doing everything and they're doing nothing. Keep all your dating profiles open and, even if you're not, make it seem you are dating others - living your life, in other words. For someone like this, the thought that she's not the centre of your attention will either make her go for good, or push her to make all the effort. Maybe you can get some fun out of this, but I wouldn't hope for anything more. Your instincts regarding this one are no doubt spot on and you must know that there's little chance or anything long lasting with her. If she's up for some fun, then take that, but don't put her on a pedestal and start falling for her.
Popsicle Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Buckle in for this roller coaster So over two months ago I matched with this girl on a dating site we got talking so I asked her out she said "oh really?" and just completely went around it. I asked her out again the week after and she gave the same response. So I just deleted my profile for 2 weeks so I could focus on other things. When I reactivated my profile she accepted my match request again.....she instantly sends me a message asking why I deactivated my account so I told her. We talk on and off for the next few weeks then I deleted my profile again this time she had my number and almost instantly I get a txt saying "Omg why did you delete your profile please add me on facebook!" So I did but this time I discover she is on tinder and her bio describes she is after fun. I'm like screw it instead of asking her out on a date i'll invite her straight to my place and she accepted! A day before she comes over I ask is she still good for tomorrow to which she replies "ahh what is on tomorrow?" Turns out she forgot about me and booked a date with another guy instead! she then insisted that she comes over early in the morning then visit the other guy right after me so I went along with it. Like I expected the next morning she makes some excuse to why she can't come over I ignore her messages so she keeps messaging me all day saying how she is so sorry and if I can forgive her. So we reschedule for Sunday.. Sunday rolls around and i'm actually sick so I tell her not to come over after that we don't talk at all for weeks so I just delete her on everything. Well again almost seconds after deleting her I get blasted with messages! I tell her I thought she wasn't interested to which she replies that she is very interested and loves talking to me. So last night she finally comes around....we put on a movie and through out the whole thing she is texting people! Every time I glanced over she would hide her screen. I noticed her breathing got heavy so I started to rub her thighs I did that for 15 minutes and go absolute no where. Movie ends so we decide to end the night there. As I'm putting on my shoes to walk her to her car she keeps telling me that I don't have to I snap out of my calm state and say "Look i'm just trying to be nice" I walk her to the car we hug and say goodbye 1 hour later I get a text from her saying she had fun and apologized for leaving early. I said that was fine if you want to do it again sometime just let me know to which she replied...... I would love to do it again Do you have a question? Honestly, you sound creepy and she sounds flaky. I'm not surprised that either of you is skeptical.
Author 4x4storm Posted July 16, 2016 Author Posted July 16, 2016 She's playing you and wanting to be wanted. Don't fall into that trap of being addicted to one person, where you're doing everything and they're doing nothing. Keep all your dating profiles open and, even if you're not, make it seem you are dating others - living your life, in other words. For someone like this, the thought that she's not the centre of your attention will either make her go for good, or push her to make all the effort. Maybe you can get some fun out of this, but I wouldn't hope for anything more. Your instincts regarding this one are no doubt spot on and you must know that there's little chance or anything long lasting with her. If she's up for some fun, then take that, but don't put her on a pedestal and start falling for her. Oh guy's trust me i'm not falling for her at all the whole reason I was deactivating my profile is because I was dating someone else or had other personal stuff going on. I only send her messages when i'm super bored hoping to get something out of it. Inviting her over again probably wont do anything again though.
Author 4x4storm Posted July 16, 2016 Author Posted July 16, 2016 Do you have a question? Honestly, you sound creepy and she sounds flaky. I'm not surprised that either of you is skeptical. No I was just sharing a experience... and what your perfect ?
SevenCity Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Oh guy's trust me i'm not falling for her at all the whole reason I was deactivating my profile is because I was dating someone else or had other personal stuff going on. I only send her messages when i'm super bored hoping to get something out of it. Inviting her over again probably wont do anything again though. If it's sex you're after, then you have to approach this differently. He's some advice if you you feel like putting in the effort. She's an attention whore. Guess what she thrives upon? Yep, attention. If you want to bang her you have to give her a bit then pull back away. Setup time to see her and cancel last minute. Just a short message saying something came up. Let her stew for a couple days then see how she acts. If she is falling for it meet up with her telling her you have something important to share with her. When you see her, tell her about this great girl you met and how hot she is. This will cause her to go nuts with jealousy. Say that you're glad you can be friends so you can share this great news with her. She'll fear that she will lose the attention and may then want to F. This is a short version but you get the idea. Be an unavailable jerk. At my age this is way too much work as there are other girls to get with less effort. But you sound younger so if you want give it a try.
phineas Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 (edited) If it's sex you're after, then you have to approach this differently. He's some advice if you you feel like putting in the effort. She's an attention whore. Guess what she thrives upon? Yep, attention. If you want to bang her you have to give her a bit then pull back away. Setup time to see her and cancel last minute. Just a short message saying something came up. Let her stew for a couple days then see how she acts. If she is falling for it meet up with her telling her you have something important to share with her. When you see her, tell her about this great girl you met and how hot she is. This will cause her to go nuts with jealousy. Say that you're glad you can be friends so you can share this great news with her. She'll fear that she will lose the attention and may then want to F. This is a short version but you get the idea. Be an unavailable jerk. At my age this is way too much work as there are other girls to get with less effort. But you sound younger so if you want give it a try. Maybe i'm just burned out from online dating but these are the types of women I mainly meet and I really do have better things to do / less messed up women to deal with. It a lot of time to invest texting them and feeding them the initial attention required to hook them. Also, she would of put out or gotten out if it were me and we were on my couch. Edited July 16, 2016 by phineas
Redguitar35 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 I don't know what it is about online dating that attracts these flaky people. The online dating sites need to do something to make people more accountable/more honest when using their apps. It can't be the Wild Wild West where there are no rules and no accountability.
preraph Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 She wasn't interested to begin with, but you kept after her, so what do you expect? She acquiesced but already knew you weren't really doing it for her.
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