RoseF06 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 This is about the 5th time we have broken up in about 4 years. During the last 6 months of our relationship, he called me names or called me a s*ut for wearing shorts and tried to convince me I m trying to attract other guys, when I wasnt. He never wanted to go out with me. I always invited him and he said no, or he made excuses that the movies were too expensive. Once he refused to go to the movie with me, and told me we would go to his place instead. So I got ready to come over and dressed up for him and everything and I texted him if he is ready....he ignored me and texted me at midnight that it is too late to come over... He broke up with me, after I started talking to him. I wanted to talk to him about how he got mad at me when I went out with my sister or friends. Or even with my family. And he said he can t have me in his life right now. So I though it was the end.....but he texted me everyday. It s been 2 weeks already and he has messaged me and tried to start fights with me that I am doing stuff without him and I m wearing shorts and tank tops and that "he s not a fan because I m a slu* because of the clothes I wear", and then at night he calls and texts me to tell me he loves me and that he wants me to wait for him. He said he doesn t want to see me with anyone else. I blocked his number from texting....because if we are done, I don t want him to talk to me. But he wants me to wait....should i? I feel like I love him, but I am really happy without him as well. I have always encouraged him to find someone if he iant with me, so we can move on. And the last time I sid, he looked me in the eye and said "I hope you do too....wait nevermind, cause I know you will be whoring around". Why would he say that? I never cheated on him onnce. I've been so loyal. Should I wait for him? Or just be done and move on? It's hard cause it's been 5 years 1
LostOnes05 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 What's with some women loving guys who treat them like this. The guy calls you all sorts of names, break up constantly, and he knows he has you on a string. Is that love to you? You should move on. This doesn't sound healthy.
smudge21 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 5 years of what exactly? Definitely not a loving, respectful, trusting relationship that's for sure. What are you hoping for - that if you take him back everything will be perfect, totally different then it's been for 5 whole years? The reality is that if you do take him back, then you're taking back the exact same crap you've been living with for 5 years. You're basically saying "yeah, treat me like dirt, I love it" and agreeing to live by his rules. Surely you're worth more than that? Surely you have more respect for yourself than this? Like the above poster says, why are there people out there who believe that this is how relationships should be! Our lives are what we make of them, but also what we allow others to make of them. By taking this disrespectful piece of garbage back you are allowing your life to be this way. Right now, the power is all with you - the power to chose. Whether that's to be a doormat for this rat to wipe his feet on, or to have the life you deserve with someone who will love and respect you fully. Your choice.
Nowty V Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Or just be done and move on? You certainly don't need all this "hurry up; and stand still" nonsense. He may have some issues. I can only say what others have already said Enabling an ill person to continue poor habits deters healing. He's toxic and is only going to waste more of your time. Kick him to the kerb and move on with a vengeance, You have the power.
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