Diana233 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 I don't even know where to start. Long story short we dated in highschool moved in after graduation. Always would fight get back together. To the point I have a domestic violence record. Someone called the cops because I was screaming. Good lord, the relationship was so bad!! For some reason though I really believed he was the one. I got pregnant and cycle continued for basically 5 years. I devoted everything to him I wanted to be the perfect housewife. I was content with cooking and cleaning taking care of our daughter. For a while it was okay. And I became okay with not being completely happy. I believed total happiness was overrated. And maybe it is. This last fight though was too much for him. He says he's talking to someone who is more independent and doesn't need him the way I do. This hurts so bad. I feel like I'm guilty over my family ending. Even though I did find condoms in his car, I freaked out on him and slapped him. Right now he looks so worry free. And I feel like crap. Crying and depressed. My daughter sees this sometimes. I know the damage of being in that relationship would have been worse. I know that this will all work out for the better. I just feel so weird. Like I'm waking from a bad dream. I have nothing. No car no licence or job. I relied so heavily on him for everything. He has been there for me and my daughter financially. But it feels do empty. Like he's just throwing money at us and getting rid of me. I feel so lost. Where has my life gone? I feel like everything meant nothing to him.
barky2 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Sorry to hear this, I truly am especially with a child involved. Going to be a little blunt because it's all I know so bare with me. Some men are fine with taking care of the family, and some look at it like hey I own her. He's looking at it since he pays for everything, he owns you. As crappy as that sounds. Prime example, my fiancé is a stay at home mom, I work all day and I don't mind it. I'm extremely happy she's home with our kids so they have mommy home all day with them. But I don't look at her like I own her, not by any means. Another example, I have a friend who's in the same boat as me, he actually says she's mine, I do everything so she belongs to me. Nope doesn't work that way. Right now , instead of being down and out or feeling bad, channel all that energy into your daughter, finding a job, getting your license, and making it on your own. No guys, no dating, and certainly don't take him back. I have a problem with people who for lack of a better term, abandon their family. I couldn't go a day without seeing my 2 sons. One day at a time, just become independent. Become the person you want your daughter to become. Get a calendar, X day I want to have a job. X day I want to have my permit , and so on. Hang in there, everything will work out, that I promise. This is going to make you into the person you'll become and be proud of. Barky
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