rayray1992 Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 Hi everyone Haven't posted here for awhile, I keep a paper journal so I usually just write in that. However I thought I would share my experiences with everyone., Short version - Me and my ex were very strong and intense and then out of the blue she started to get down and then a few weeks later she said she doesn't have the energy for us. Which of course broke me, we tried to talk after and for about a week or so we spoke every day and she said ''oh i miss you but this is for the best'' then I sent her a voicemail putting my heart on the line and she had ago at me for it and then ignored me for ages. So i kept trying NC but i gave in and then finally I did it again and got to day 10 and had my first day of work and then she messaged me and like an idoit I replied and then she was all flirty and telling me she misses going out drinking with me and my friends and that I always was the only to make her smile. So i told her I missed her back and then she completely 180'd me and then was like oh no I only want friendship, I'm over us and I don't think ill ever be with anyone again I deserve to be alone etc and I was like....no look after what you said that doesn't go in a month and then she got all bitchy with me and blocked me. So i was sort of forced into NC , I am on day 15 and to be honest I don't think its getting better I'm just better at not looking at her social media or contacting her, it just takes time I suppose , but yeah i regret breaking the NC as i was in a really good place and then she pushed me back several days and talking to her brought back the memories and how at ease I am around her which makes this 10000000000x harder now specially as she was dropping hints about stuff which makes it harder to let go. SO DON'T BREAK NC Love to everyone going through this stuff :/ 2
JewelD Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 I think most people break NC at least once. It's not going to undo any of the progress you've made. If anything, it teaches you the consequences of the action so that you know better next time you're thinking about giving in. 1
Neel Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 @rayray1992 One more thing i would like to point out, is the way you break the NC. What do i mean? Simple. If you break the NC, break it. All good. But, if you respond, too softly and obvious, this can backfire pretty well. And that happens, because you give away so easily the power on the other person again. Then you lose the general balance and the 180 turn is logical. In case you break it again, keep in mind, that after a NC, the other person, should expect a bit different version of you. Good luck!
Author rayray1992 Posted July 17, 2016 Author Posted July 17, 2016 Thank you Yeah to be honest I'm sort of glad I did as it allowed me to see that even with me gone on and off everything still had to be on her terms and she blocking me has forced me to do NC , I know I would never have been able to block her so that is a positive. I want to get to a good point because I may see her in September at uni when I go back for my masters degree , so I want to be in a position where I just implode when seeing her
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