BlueSteel109 Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 Hey everyone, Her main priorities are school and work. She's taking summer classes every weekday morning. She works second shift Thurs-Mon. At one point for work she told me the week nights were until 8pm and the weekends were until 11pm. And she usually gets called in Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Her schedule is hectic. We were hitting it off real good. We hung out two days in a row at the gym then went out for food after. Second day she invited me over so we could go out to a bonfire by her house. Then I tried to kiss her and she turned her head. I asked her at the end of the night what was going on with us. I told her I thought she seemed conservative and I respected that, then she smiled and said "Well why didn't you wait then?". Which I took as she wants to take things slow. I told her I know a lot of girls expect guys to make a quick first move and I didn't want her losing interest and not thinking I wasn't interested. She didn't deny having feelings for me but she didn't say she did either. She also told me she will not date guys until she knows them for several months. After this she seemed to start getting a little distant. I gave her some space and she texted me a day and a half later. I started asking my douchey player friends for advice because she started using a lot of two and three word close ended responses like "Thats good lol". But now I feel like they're turning it into a game. I honestly just want to hang out with her because she's awesome. I keep trying to make plans and end up getting shot down. The most recent went like "Hey want to go boating next week?" She said "Heck Yeah, my days off are Tuesday and Wednesday" Then once I say "Well what about next Wednesday" She says "I have a 4-8pm shift that day." She is really giving me mixed signals. I've asked her to the gym twice since I tried to kiss her and she told me both times she worked late that day, even though it wasn't too late to go on the same days the prior week. That's basically where I'm at now. I usually try to text her everyday, but she doesn't really ask questions or try hard to hold a conversation. She starts off chatty for the first text or two then when she uses a 2 or 3 word close ended response I get upset and usually text her that something came up and I hope her day goes good to which she always replies something like Thank you I hope your day goes good too. If I try to make plans when she's supposed to be free she seems at least slightly interested but always tells me something is going on and doesn't offer a time to reschedule. Any help would be greatly appreciated because this is basically how the last week has gone now. Thanks.
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 This is very simple, she's not that interested in you. Sorry OP. But as I've said a million times on here before, anyone who IS interested WILL make an effort no matter the obstacle. Save your dignity and back away. I'm sure there are other women who will give you the attention you want and need. Good luck.
smackie9 Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 Date other people and keep her as a lunch date chat friend.
longjohn Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 Your wasting your time she's not interested and is actively avoiding you now. Time to extract yourself from that and move along before she cries stalker. She's just trying to be nice and not hurt your feelings. Push a bit more and she might never show up at that gym again or answer your texts.
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