Author smile95 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 well....when you are long distance it is all you have, ya know. The phone or the computer....so I know logically that my stmt was not true, but sometimes it makes me think he must not care/love if he cannot take a minute to get on the phone and call me.
scarlyjones Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 well....when you are long distance it is all you have, ya know. The phone or the computer....so I know logically that my stmt was not true, but sometimes it makes me think he must not care/love if he cannot take a minute to get on the phone and call me. beth, how old are you?
Author smile95 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 why? Because I asked that? You try being in a LDR for 3 yrs and have someone tell you they want to marry you and then not have a second in their day for you? Actions speak louder than words and when you see them a few times/ys the phone call is very important, as it is all we have right now.
lost_in_chgo Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Time does equal interest. (compound interest usually) If you aren't getting any face time and no phone time either, then the interest level has diminished. Problem with an LDR is that there might be someone else in the picture and you'd never know. Really if someone doesn't call you for an extended period, they've lost interest. They just don't have what it takes to call you and tell you that so they try to slink away into the night.
Author smile95 Posted June 30, 2005 Author Posted June 30, 2005 it is not liked he ever called a lot and thenit dropped off tho. So, I guess he just is not that kind of guy. I agree that I have no idea what goes on there. But the fact that he is going thru a divorce and child custody wars makes his life quite busy. I guess that I shouldbe used to this by now! But it still hurts when he cannot find a minute to call. thanks for the thoughts!
XNemesisX Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Originally posted by lost_in_chgo Time does equal interest. (compound interest usually) If you aren't getting any face time and no phone time either, then the interest level has diminished. Problem with an LDR is that there might be someone else in the picture and you'd never know. Really if someone doesn't call you for an extended period, they've lost interest. They just don't have what it takes to call you and tell you that so they try to slink away into the night. Amen to that! Well I think everybody, no matter how much they hate and loathe the phone, how busy they are, or WHATEVER has 5 minutes of their day to call someone they care about. I generally HATE and despise talking on the phone. There are very few people that I actually will answer the phone when they call But if I really like a guy you better believe I am picking that phone up when it rings and I will also call the guy back. Not many people can say they get a call back from me or that I will want to talk when they call. Lots of my friends get disgusted at me for this....but it's just how I am. hate the phone. Beth, if you are not getting any face time with this guy then the least he can do is pick up the damn phone and call you even if for a few minutes. I think you have a right to be disturbed by this!
l2hvn Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 true... my bf and i talk to each other at least twice a day, and they're about 2 min. phone calls (just to say hi). i call on lunch break and he calls when he gets off work. and we see each other everyday. my bf has a very demanding and stressful job. he's on the phone all day, and the least thing he would want is to spend 30min phone conv with me... i've learned to adjust to this b/c i love talking on the phone. and to beth, it's a diff case as you are in LDR. he SHOULD make the time to call you even for just a few mins, no matter how busy he gets or how stressful of a situation he's currently in... everybody has 2 mins to spare... it isn't much to ask... if i were in your shoes, it would bother me as well.... i think you should stop making excuses for him not calling you as much because he SHOULD be calling you. period!
Tony427 Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Okay Beth I was unaware this was a LDR. I said earlier that I think the phone sucks but if my girl was away I'd definitely make time to call her but it still probably wouldn't be a daily thing or anything like that. Why is it that some guys are not "phone guys" that bothers me. I can have a great conv in person with him and then on the phone it is so different? this had me under the impression that you saw him in person often. If that was the case I wouldn't call much either, but even long distance I would prob only call once or twice a week (they would prob be pretty long conversations though but I would mostly just be listening because of my inability to communicate over the phone). Some people (like myself) have trouble conveying what they want to say over the phone so we try to avoid it. May seem insensitive to some but it's just the way I am. What is the frequency of his calls when he does call?
Author smile95 Posted June 30, 2005 Author Posted June 30, 2005 well he USUALLY calls once a day. But It is quick. What happens is I get used to him calling once a day and if a day passes, I get kinda mad. I guess if he did not set the bar here, I would not have noticed ya know?
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